Hi, Missing Lincs,     Getting tired of the hunt?  Take a break.  Today, in the USA, is Siblings day.  It is time to call or visit with a brother or sister.  And maybe it's time to get an update on some of the in-laws for your family tree.  After all, don't they make your family look rather normal and ordinary?  And it might be a good day to talk to your children, just to stay in touch.  Don't mention the money they owe you.     One of my college students told me that she hadn't spoken to her brother or sister in about two years.  They were in two different countries, so that was one reason, and there was some strife over who was going to take over the family business.  Telephone calls were shouting matches.  I told he to make a list of things she wanted to talk about with each one, then to call and stay only on the list topics.  I told her not to react when he brother was emotional.  She told me a few days later that she'd called both siblings and had a great phone conversation, longer than she had expected, and that "the list" thing had worked just fine.     If you still can't talk to them, well, next month we'll have a relative swap.  But you'd better find someone in Lincolnshire you want to swap, first.         Lou