On Fri, 30 Mar 2007 06:55:16 +1000 "Jeanette Hartnack" <[email protected]> wrote: Hello Jeanette, > I have never thought that ever when generally browsing through > messages on a list like this probably because I feel that what goes > on privately between two people on a list isn't my business. I sometimes wonder about it. More so in the past few days where I've given people help, and not a word of thanks, either privately or publicly. > My preference is to thank people privately for any help I may receive > because I've never thought it fair to burden others with messages > that aren't relevant to them (imagine one morning downloading over If they didn't want those irrelevant messages, perhaps they should not subscribe to mailing lists. :-) > ten "thank you" messages and nothing else!). Private is more > personal too. I also think it's worth considering the possibility >From my background on the 'net (some 20 years) it was considered impolite (actually, down-right rude) to reply privately to a message sent to an ML. Unless, of course, the message specifically invited private replies. > Interesting . . . I guess there's a case for both methods! Quite so. It would appear that my views on the matter are becoming outmoded WRT to public/private thanks. I suggest we take this off-list if you wish to discuss this more, since it now has nothing to do with Hants genealogy. -- Regards _ / ) "The blindingly obvious is / _)rad never immediately apparent"

I normally try and thank people with a personal email and a general thank you on the list. The other thing is when people post a query it is sometimes a good thing to post the reply again to both the list and the persons private email. This way others who may well be interested in that subject or family can get the information as well. To many times have I seen "reply sent off list" or image sent off list when referring to a lookup. Fair enough but there are quite a few people who are a bit wary or new to computers who do not post to the lists, the lurkers as they are affectionately known, these "lurkers" can often benefit from info passed on in this way, especially if they are new to genealogy etc. I have learnt a considerable amount of where to find the info I need etc by just reading through the postings albeit the family name may not interest me. By the way this same subjecte Genes Reunited is being thrown around on the Isle of Wight list so must be a good topical issue at present. Chris SOUTHERN LIFE(UK) http://Southernlife.org.uk History of the IOW and Hampshires Villages,Towns and Churches ----- Original Message ----- From: "Brad Rogers" <[email protected]> To: <[email protected]> Sent: Friday, March 30, 2007 10:19 PM Subject: Re: [ENG-HANTS] Genes Reunited . . . a question ... and thanks On Fri, 30 Mar 2007 06:55:16 +1000 "Jeanette Hartnack" <[email protected]> wrote: Hello Jeanette, > I have never thought that ever when generally browsing through > messages on a list like this probably because I feel that what goes > on privately between two people on a list isn't my business. I sometimes wonder about it. More so in the past few days where I've given people help, and not a word of thanks, either privately or publicly. > My preference is to thank people privately for any help I may receive > because I've never thought it fair to burden others with messages > that aren't relevant to them (imagine one morning downloading over If they didn't want those irrelevant messages, perhaps they should not subscribe to mailing lists. :-) > ten "thank you" messages and nothing else!). Private is more > personal too. I also think it's worth considering the possibility >From my background on the 'net (some 20 years) it was considered impolite (actually, down-right rude) to reply privately to a message sent to an ML. Unless, of course, the message specifically invited private replies. > Interesting . . . I guess there's a case for both methods! Quite so. It would appear that my views on the matter are becoming outmoded WRT to public/private thanks. I suggest we take this off-list if you wish to discuss this more, since it now has nothing to do with Hants genealogy. -- Regards _ / ) "The blindingly obvious is / _)rad never immediately apparent" ............................................. Want to contact the local community? Please visit Hampshire Parish Jottings http://hants.parishjottings.org.uk ............................................. ------------------------------- To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to [email protected] with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message --- avast! Antivirus: Inbound message clean. Virus Database (VPS): 000729-1, 03/30/2007 Tested on: 3/30/2007 11:42:42 PM avast! - copyright (c) 1988-2007 ALWIL Software. http://www.avast.com