It might be that her own family wanted her recorded on the family stone even though she was not in that grave. I have someone who was lost at sea off the beach of Seaton Carew after he tried to save someone else's life his body was never found as far as I know, but his name appears on a stone in Hartlepool Old Cemetery along with his 2 brothers, one of those brothers died on the Somme in WWI. This means 2 out of the 3 the brothers mentioned on the stone are not in the grave even though their names are recorded there, their family just wanted their passing noted on the stone with the 3rd. brother. You could try getting the cemetery office in both places to check for her burial in the appropriate cemetery to find out which place she really was buried in. Regards Jenny DeAngelis Spain. <<I have a MARY IRVING URWIN (nee GRAYSON) who was born in South Shields. She lived in Birmingham with her husband, my great uncle WILFRED BARWICK URWIN, at least up to the time of his death there in 1923. Mary died on 21st January 1964 aged 86 years and there is a GRAYSON family headstone in Harton Cemetery, South Shields dedicated to her and other members of her original family. This headstone gives her full name and date of her death. With this knowledge I assumed that she had returned to Shields after her husband's death in Birmingham,but I now have photographic evidence that the headstone of her husband in Birmingham cemetery also states that she is also in the same grave as he in Birmingham showing the same date of her death as the Shields headstone.>>