Alright ya'll,you know he is right. Sorry for my post about decoding Cajun stuff.If all the serious genealogist leave the forum we will just have an East Texas chat room.That would be a good project for a different list altogether.We are supposed to be talking about the missing and the dead. I just had a chat with one of the guys that unsubed.His point--I think? Is that he is used to doing research in his spare time at a library.He does not have a lot of spare time and wants to make the best use of it.There is no frivolity and boisterous chit chat in the library.He is serious and down to business there.He joined the list hoping to find other serious researchers that could share knowlege,experience and resources and expedite finding his ancestors.The down side to this is that he will not have many people to share his good news with and facilitate his finding even more relatives because he has left the list. We need to reach a happy medium here and be self monitoring. It would probably be more efficient if we punctuated our quest and queries with a little fun rather than punctuating our fun with a little genealogy. I am guilty as charged.I have found cousins on these lists though and the thrill is just indescribable.A lot of our joking and interchanging can be done off list between individuals, thereby not irritating the more intense personalities.I guess what I am saying is more meat and less 'taters and flaky crusts when we share our ancestral reciepes.But now don't be intimidated about seasoning. Tasty meat is easier for me to digest. My dollar and two cents worth, in small change of course. Karen Kerr