Shirley H.  I think I am very lucky.    Jim and I were both very busy in the early part of our marriage.   Still in school, we were trying to build careers, raise a family, work, and whoever got home first just pitched in and did what had to be done.   I planned the menu for the week.   Everything for dinner was ready to heat when one of us got home................made things much easier.   We helped each other with everything.  EXCEPT YARD WORK.   Jim would do the laundry, clean house on saturdays if we were lucky enough to both be off.   I then, did the yards.  I didn't care because I loved it outside..........Jim got really good about the house cleaning.................Now, both retired, we still switch off..........or we help each other..................We never agree on the yards, so he lets me be, and only lends help when I need him with something heavy...He keeps lawn equipment in good running order also.......................it seems to work pretty well.   Jim is the calming side for me, and I guess I am his strength when he needs it..............we are very blessed to still be as close as we are.   Ups and downs are in all of our journeys through life, but for us, we have usually gotten along pretty well....................after saying this, hope we don't have a battle tonight .  lol.................................sam When we had a house Nakai was the gardener etc.. I was the weed puller or  if I wanted to do something with the landscape it was just the opposite of what  he wanted so I told him what he could do with the gardening landscape and I  refused to go do anything else outside except to take care of MY posies.  I  too love to have a nice looking home etc.. I used to help him lawn mower etc but  he sure got my Cherokee/Irish temper and like I said I told him just what he  could do with that yardwork!  We have always been like that.. If I say  apple he says orange..wonder we are still together so long. Shirley H ------------------------------- To unsubscribe from the list,  please send an email to [email protected] with the word  'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the  message **************Dell Days of Deals! June 15-24 - A New Deal Everyday! (http://pr.atwola.com/promoclk/100126575x1222865043x1201494942/aol?redir=http:%2F%2F ad.doubleclick.net%2Fclk%3B215692145%3B38015538%3Bh) ------------------------------- To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to [email protected] with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message