I had great uncles that fought on both sides. The CW was a great tragedy on both sides. Probably worse than the RW because we had brothers fighting brothers and in some cases they did not even know who they were killing but others like my great great grandfather was shot in the stomach by a rebel as he was walking to KY to join his unit after going home to TN to see his wife and eight daughters. Last words were Bill, why did you shot me?!! Bill had never shot a man, took my grandfather home and buried him two weeks later just 20 miles from his family.