I haven't spoken up sooner, but that's because I have over 400 e-mails, and I haven't been able to read everything. I have 3 other lists that have to do with grief/loss. No one offers a course on making a group, these are people who want to make the world a better place. I do appreciate all the work, and I can't even begin to imagine how much time must be put in each day, week and then the monthly totals... I'm an "idiot" genealogist, I'm kicking back a bit and waiting to met family, but with a new job I haven't done the work. I "bummed into" my aunt, and I don't remember if it was this list or not, we knew each other existed, but not that we were both looking for our heritage, while keeping the memories of the recently departed alive. Once again, thank you, Donna Darnell Sanceau PS, I know that the different site that are listed I only goto the ones that are interesting to me. I don't goto the Christian site, as it's not my interest, but I'm glad that those with similar interests can share their ideas, and hard work :)