Struggled with 'this' for a longtime...ere...25 years... Could use 'you guys' thoughts...being an 'ole Chicago guy'...as I am....... 'Told my folks, I'd see them in Wisconsin, just North of the Dells at my Grandmothers place, the next day.... Diane told her folks, we we're leaving that afternoon for my Grandmothers' place.....". Needless to stay, WE LIED.....we spent the night together at my folks place...... Married her, I did..... Few months latter....Diane gave birth to our son.....Thomas Christopher Snow.....Feb. 20, 1968 Born prematurely.....I called our Pastor and respirated Thomas until he arrived....(things were not as they are today for neo-natal births).... Pastor baptized Thomas....and I continued to help him breath as long as I could.....he died in my hands......all 1 lb. 9 ozs of him......... Buried Thomas in the Church graveyard where only I and my mother attended the 'ceremony' by our Pastor..... Diane and I divorced after 7 years.......((took-up with Debby McKenzie instead (what a joke that turned into....Paula Jones ain't got nothing on her...nor Monica))... Thomas has lain alone for over 30 years without a 'marker'......I don't want him to go thru Eternity that way.....not because of my mistakes.....I loved his mother....she was a good women...... Some options here...... 1. Leave Thomas alone and place a granite 'marker' over his grave......(which is what my company does...I own it..)... 2. Over half-a-century ago my Grandmother bought an eight grave plot for her family....even though she had eight kids...(haven't figured out how she planned putting 8 kids into the remaining 5 grave-sites)....doesn't matter...you and I know the answer here...I've prepaid the perpetual-care on the site for Eternity (unlike alot of the gravesites in the DanvilleCrossing area)..... My Grandmother loved kids...probably why she had so many...(my comment....knowing her).... My thoughts are to move Thomas next to her and be next to him when I die...... Your thoughts.... Dave