Hey Dave! You haven't heard from me yet. :) I have been behind in my e-mail reading and have come across your question about daughters asking Dad's if they are good Mom's. First, I think it's wonderful you and your daughter are as close as you are. Most daughters always want to be close to their Daddy's and especially try hard for their approval in every aspect of their lives. I know I did. I didn't realize until I was older how hard I had tried. I never ask my father if I was a good mother. I knew I had his approval because he would comment on how I was raising my son. He was always bragging on me which made me feel like I was doing a good job. You know you are the same way. I know your daughter knows she is a good Mom, BUT every now and again, even though you remind us all the time as daughters, we need a little reassurance we are still doing good in our father's eyes. It doesn't hurt to say it over and over and over again we are doing good. My father passed away in March 1987. I miss him and often wonder how he would feel about what I've done in my life these past years. I keep him in mind on decision I make and think if he would be proud of me. The way you talk about your daughter, we all know how proud you are of her, and I'm sure you say and show her daily how you feel. Now, let's hear what you said to her. :) Paulette

Paulette, You bring tears to my eyes...women..... In other womens' minds....I know you've all ask this question...silent answers or not... You've been there.....Who would ask the acceptance of their Father is Important...!!! To me....they are True Mothers..... I've heard from 2 of you....OUT OF 150 on this LIST......... I consider most Black Women in the local area (and that includes 'White Trailer Park Trash') as BREEDERS.....(mostly because that's what I have always been taught by YOU...southern women) ........(and it's not that the 'Breeders' never asked...Dad (if he was around??)...Am I a Good a MoM ???.....(I want you Southern Women to THINK about that question 'Big Time'...????) WOMEN........ANSWER THIS QUESTION.....THE one, that one of your OWN has posed...."Dad..Am I a good Mom?" She's obviously has 'hit' a BIGTIME CHORD here with you females.....and I've asked the 'Right Question'.... Your Silence is Obvious........If YOU want her here to ask YOU the 'QUESTION' directly......I will do that... She will ask you directly........ Dave ------------------------------------------------------------------ At 07:47 PM 1/17/02 -0500, Parastruct@aol.com wrote: >Hey Dave! > >You haven't heard from me yet. :) > >I have been behind in my e-mail reading and have come across your question >about daughters asking Dad's if they are good Mom's. > >First, I think it's wonderful you and your daughter are as close as you are. >Most daughters always want to be close to their Daddy's and especially try >hard for their approval in every aspect of their lives. I know I did. I >didn't realize until I was older how hard I had tried. > >I never ask my father if I was a good mother. I knew I had his approval >because he would comment on how I was raising my son. He was always bragging >on me which made me feel like I was doing a good job. You know you are the >same way. I know your daughter knows she is a good Mom, BUT every now and >again, even though you remind us all the time as daughters, we need a little >reassurance we are still doing good in our father's eyes. It doesn't hurt to >say it over and over and over again we are doing good. > >My father passed away in March 1987. I miss him and often wonder how he >would feel about what I've done in my life these past years. I keep him in >mind on decision I make and think if he would be proud of me. > >The way you talk about your daughter, we all know how proud you are of her, >and I'm sure you say and show her daily how you feel. Now, let's hear what >you said to her. :) > >Paulette > > >==== DanvilleCrossing Mailing List ==== >My family tree must have been used for Firewood !!! >

Dave, I strongly agree with Paulette. Keep up with the good work with your daughter and your new granddaughter. Bill Parastruct@aol.com wrote: > Hey Dave! > > You haven't heard from me yet. :) > > I have been behind in my e-mail reading and have come across your question > about daughters asking Dad's if they are good Mom's. > > First, I think it's wonderful you and your daughter are as close as you are. > Most daughters always want to be close to their Daddy's and especially try > hard for their approval in every aspect of their lives. I know I did. I > didn't realize until I was older how hard I had tried. > > I never ask my father if I was a good mother. I knew I had his approval > because he would comment on how I was raising my son. He was always bragging > on me which made me feel like I was doing a good job. You know you are the > same way. I know your daughter knows she is a good Mom, BUT every now and > again, even though you remind us all the time as daughters, we need a little > reassurance we are still doing good in our father's eyes. It doesn't hurt to > say it over and over and over again we are doing good. > > My father passed away in March 1987. I miss him and often wonder how he > would feel about what I've done in my life these past years. I keep him in > mind on decision I make and think if he would be proud of me. > > The way you talk about your daughter, we all know how proud you are of her, > and I'm sure you say and show her daily how you feel. Now, let's hear what > you said to her. :) > > Paulette > > ==== DanvilleCrossing Mailing List ==== > My family tree must have been used for Firewood !!!