Dave, I've had much the same struggle----14 Aug 1968---he lived 3 hours---he's buried where my Dad will someday be. Although the cemetary has records and their plat shows where his grave is, there is no marker because my husband (his Dad) has always said it would be a waste of money to put a maker on his grave. (I've vowed to out-live my husband just so I can put a maker on the baby's grave before I put one on his!) My husband and I bought our cemetary lots when we were 25-years-old (at my insistance). They happen to be across the road from where my Dad and step-Mom will be buried---and my 1st-born son. I asked the cemetary about moving my baby across the street to be with me (wanted it done when I die so we could be buried together). I was quiet bluntly told that they probably couldn't find anything to move! I may have another option (for myself). My Dad bought 4 plots and my baby is buried in the corner of one. The cemetary folks say they won't consider that plot as "taken" so Daddy still has the 4 plots. My mother-in-law has recently decided she doesn't want to be buried in Stewart County and I full-well expect my husband to decide to bury her with "us". I have news for him! (We might have had a marriage if it hadn't been for his family and their interferance---and I'll be damned if I'm going to be buried anywhere near my mother-in-law!) My parents gave me the plot where my baby is buried so when my descendants come to the cemetary to "dig bones", they will probably find me and my son on one side of the road with my parents---and my husband across the street with his mother! My children and oldest granddaughter know my wishes and my reasons---and it's all detailed in my genealogy notes. What's the possibility of you being buried beside Thomas? (And, have you considered that Diane might want to be buried near him, too?) Put a marker on Thomas's grave and be sure to put that he was the "son of. . ." on the marker. Be sure that you tell others about Thomas--take them to his grave and tell them the story of how he died in your arms. Don't try to move him after all these years. As I was so bluntly reminded, the body returns to dust---it's the spirit/soul that lives! Sandy Ellis