Similar occurance in my family....and here is how it went. Mama wanted the rocking chair of her great granny for years...sat outside in all kinds of weather in the possession of kindred. She never got it, but her sister-in-law (no relation to this side of the house) dropped by one day and offered the family cash for it and DID get it, had it refinished and kept it...and one day gave it to Mama years later. Don't know that Mama would ever have gotten it, no mean spirit about it...just if family wanted it family felt like maybe they should keep it. But when a "stranger" dropped in and offered something for it, they sold it! LOL! No great lesson here. Just a story. Seriously, I am with Carolyn on that. If I wanted it I would ask, offer to pay for it and try to get it. I would also explain that I wanted to keep it in the family, and would offer to put an engraved plate on bottom with a list of the owners that have had it, including this current one so that she would become "part of the idea of a family heirloom to be passed on"...that should sweeten the idea of keeping it in the family and turning it into an heirloom rather than simply an antique for people non-related. Just an idea... jan ----- Original Message ----- From: gildent <gildent@email.msn.com> To: <DanvilleCrossing-L@rootsweb.com> Sent: Tuesday, July 20, 1999 11:20 AM Subject: Re: Question > I would say, if it was me, I would certainly call and talk to the lady about > the chair. If you never ask about it,then probably you won't have a chance > of getting it since they don't know you. Atleast if you call and talk to > them it will get you a chance at it! > Good Luck!! > Caroline > -----Original Message----- > From: Robert Brooks <RBROOKS@NCH.COM> > To: DanvilleCrossing-L@rootsweb.com <DanvilleCrossing-L@rootsweb.com> > Date: Tuesday, July 20, 1999 8:35 AM > Subject: FW: Question > > > > > >> I have a question or two I wish you all would answer for me. (Give me > your > >> opinion.) > >> > >> My Great-Grandmother tried to obtain a chair that her Grandmother owned > >> and had died in. The Chair is owned by my Great-Grandmother's Cousin. > >> This Cousin has no family to leave this chair to. She had no children > >> but, she married a man with children. > >> > >> My questions are: > >> > >> Do you think it would be proper of me to offer to buy the chair from her > >> in order to keep the chair in the family? > >> If it is proper how would you handle it? > >> > >> To her family(Step-Children) it is only an antique since they are not > >> directly descended from the original owner. Keep in mind that a call > from > >> me would surely be a surprise since they don't know me. She has > >> previously turned down several requests from my Great-Grandmother who > >> recently died. > >> > >> Thanks, any help would be appreciated. Robert > >> > > > > > >==== DanvilleCrossing Mailing List ==== > >Hi Ho! Hi Ho! Now where did my ancestors go ?? > > > > > > > ==== DanvilleCrossing Mailing List ==== > GENEALOGY goes on... and on... and on... > > > >