In the Fall of 1824, a 49 year old Scott, crossed the Tennessee River, from near Erin in what is now Houston Co (that used to be Humphreys Co., and then used to be Stewart Co.), and searched-out a new Homestead for his family of 6, on Sugar Creek (near current-day Big Sandy) in Benton County (which used to be Barbados, which used to be Virginia, which used to be Carolina, which used to be N. Carolina, which used to be Indian Territory, which used to be Humphreys County)......hoping to move his wife and family into a new home by Christmas....... Just after marring his young Scottish bride of 19, Nancy Beaton, on February 13, 1812 in Stewart Co. at Dover., the then 38 year old Malcolm McKenzie, joined Gen. Andrew Jackson (when he came thru the area recruiting) to fight the British in the War of 1812. Malcolm was reportedly 'Killed-in-Action' during the War, and Nancy received a Widow's Pension.....But then, Malcolm made a miraculous recovery from his 'mortal wounds' and returned home to receive only a 'wounded pension' from the US Government for his service...... Imagine if you would, what it might have been like in 1824, to enter into the Wilderness of then Humphreys County (which just a few years prior had been Indian Territory) and carve-out a new homestead.....alone.....for your wife and 6 kids. Malcom's parents (Gilbert & Margrette McKenzie) came to Wilmington, N. Carolina in December 1774 after a 2 month voyage from Greenock, Scotland aboard the ship, Diana. Margrette was pregnant with Malcolm during the journey....she gave birth to Malcolm during the trip or shortley after arriving in Wilmington. They left Scotland, after being reduced to 'bleeding' their cattle and drinking their blood to survive.....This is another tale in itself...... Gilbert fought in the Revolutionary War with the British.....as did the majority of Scotts who settled in the present day Carolinas and Georgia. They suffered greatly after the War and their children (in this case Malcolm) left the Raleigh area by 1812. Malcolm took the usual boat route from N. Carolina to Dover, Stewart Co. with a lot of the Scottish Clans... A little history......the names..Nancy and Ann... in Gaelic are the same names.....contrary to popular belief....Nancy Beaton WAS NOT NAMED ...Nancy ANN Beaton in 1793......that would be like calling President George Bush....GEORGE GEORGE BUSH....her name was Nancy OR Ann...but NOT Nancy Ann....it was Anglicized to Nancy Ann...... 2nd....in Gaelic....surnames Beaton and Bethune....who were quite prominent in old Stewart, Humphreys, Houston and Benton Counties........are the same.....pronounced ...bee-toon'.......The Beatons' or Bethunes' are an extrememly respected religous name in old Scotland....as they were the priests and ministers of the Church.....and were the founders of the Church of Canada after most of the N. Carolina Scotts went to Canada after the Revolutionary War....... I will tell you the story later as to how these Scotts fought with the English (and this is a VERY, VERY IMPORTANT historical note............it's ENGLISH and not BRITISH......you offend Wales, Ireland and Scotland (these folks HATED the ENGLISH in 1774) by including them in the Revolutionary War as 'British' ........the War was fought with ENGLAND and NOT...Wales, Ireland and Scotland.....it was.... TOTALLY ENGLISH.... More stories later..... But...... I have, in hand, copies of the Royal Peerage Charts of the McKenzies back to the 11th Century.....I received them from the current Laird of the MacKenzies as a gift thru the Clan McKenzie of Canada....for personal research connecting the Clans settlements in the Americas after the Battle of Collouden Moor in April of 1745........ THese are very rare documents, as they are NOT available to the General Public..... Three things..... 1. These gen-charts, from the 1000's to the late 1800's, provide a genealogical history to a number of you in Northern Benton Country (particularly around Big Sandy) and the surrounding counties. If you have an interest in them...I will provide you a copy (at whatever it cost me to reproduce them)......let me know.... 2. I have established the link between Gilbert (b. 1740), his son Malcolm (b. 1774) of Benton Co. and the Ancient MacKenzie Clan gen-charts...........I leave 'the link' for you to discover on your own however......It is important to me..that you do this yourselves......if you find the right connections....I will provide you with missing documents...... 3. However, those of you who are descendant of Malcolms' son, Gilbert, thru his son Jethro, and subsequently Fred McKenzie (who married Grace Thelma Wimberley in 1921) may not find these 'Charts" of interest....you may want to look to the Robbins' family genealogy instead.......There's an old genealogical ryhme, which has stood the test of time, (making a new ryhme here <vbg>)...that goes......'Mamas' Baby...Daddy's Maybe'....You research it.... and figure it out..... Dave

NOPE......!!!! Watch the next email....... Dave At 12:45 PM 1/21/02 -0500, you wrote: >Now Dave, if you have not had to go change your drawers from laughing too >hard, we needa get back to biz here. I got a bushel load of ancestors >hiding under rocks. (Probably scared of me). Time to tell these folks >about DC Crossing and why it is necessary. Time to tell them bout county >boundary lines changing without folks moving which makes census records a >MESS if you don't know bout the danged lines. Time to tell em bout folks >migrating a mile down the road and winding up in another courthouse. Time >to tell them why you founded this list in the first place so we did not all >go nuts looking under rocks. Time for them to tell US what counties they >lost WHO in so we can start looking again. > >You got that grin off your face yet??? > >jan > > >==== DanvilleCrossing Mailing List ==== >My family Coat of Arms ties at the back ...... >is that normal ??? >

Dave Just in reading this, believe there is only one answer that will put you at peace. Move your son next to his grandmother.. I know from experience, that having a small grave out there alone, (in my case a granddaughter) is very sad, and gives the ones that care, a very empty feeling. As a Christian I believe he is no longer there, but as a grandmother I would want him close to my side and yours......

<LOL...rolling on floor......the irony is just to much for me today>..... Want to talk about who can 'irritate' the most people.....????? Belly-up to the Bar, Girl......It's an exclusive club you just joined....but a very necessary one.... <still gigling> Dave ================================================ At 12:10 PM 1/21/02 -0500, j wrote: ><BG> Mop up the sneezles and be nice, Dave. I irritated someone by >posting a column written a year ago, to another list entirely, sent to >thousands out there and one person I never heard tell of took me >personal. Man I hope the other thousands don't or my email box is gonna be >a MESS! LOL! > > > > >==== DanvilleCrossing Mailing List ==== >My family tree must have been used for Firewood !!! >

<LOL...rolling on floor......the irony is just to much for me today>..... Want to talk about who can 'irritate' the most people.....????? Belly-up to the Bar, Girl......It's an exclusive club you just joined....but a very necessary one.... <still gigling> Dave ================================================ At 12:10 PM 1/21/02 -0500, j wrote: ><BG> Mop up the sneezles and be nice, Dave. I irritated someone by >posting a column written a year ago, to another list entirely, sent to >thousands out there and one person I never heard tell of took me >personal. Man I hope the other thousands don't or my email box is gonna be >a MESS! LOL! > > > > >==== DanvilleCrossing Mailing List ==== >My family tree must have been used for Firewood !!! >

Folks, Been offline for a couple days with a bad case of the Flu.....<between sniffles, coughs, blurry eyes, aches, etc., ....Need some 'dotting' badly....vbg>, and Qwest is trying to turn my Internet Account over to MSN......noway... What I can gather from the 100+ emails, I just downloaded...... Cheryl is back....hooray....Welcome Back Girl.....was nice to have met you.... Jan...on-the-other-hand....apparently has irritated someone for some reason....and got her pantyhose all knotted-up real tight.... Other-than-that..... Dave

Dave: Thanks for letting us know how you answered the question to your daughter. I knew I'd be happy with your reply and more importantly, how happy you made her. Talk about bring tears to someone's eyes. Yep, you are a good dad and she is a good Mom! Love and caring of our children is passed on to the next generation when it's true and real and it will continue on down the line. We all learn as we go, but it helps to have a guiding hand along the way sometimes. I'm sure you will extend that hand of yours anytime needed. Bless the children and their children and their children. They are our future as we teach them of the past. Not only a report of lineage, but teach them how things can be different for us, that we don't have to live the way they had to live. We can show them through our genealogy searches and finds how far we have all come and to be proud of all the accomplishments and sacrifices made for us or by us to be where we are. We are truly blessed. You are blessed, Dave. Paulette

Dave, I am a little slow in answering but wanted to tell you that as a "step-daughter" it is very important to me to get my daddy's (stepfather) opinions and approvals. He has always been more objective with me than my mom. I think it is because as young girls we are raised to believe mothers are always right and therefore they always think they are. LOL I have to grown sons and though my mother always believed they would turn out to be demons children, my father always told me to give them their space, trust their judgement, and let them make their own mistakes. It was hard to do but I did and when my oldest was 17 and I was so afraid that he would get mixedup with the "gang " crowds or get intoall kinds of trouble. He told me that he couldn't!! When I asked Why? He said "Because that is not the way you raised us" Yes after many tears..of joy.. I realized that is all we can do and be there when they need us as your daughter needs you now. I know without my father beside me whether he told me I was right or wrong I could never have raised to very fine, hard working and well love men (they hate it when I call them boys as they are now 21 and 24). Hope this helps and beleive me your daughter must love you very much and you must have done a great job. I have NEVER asked my "birth" father for anything especially advice. Take care and know you are loved and respected both on and off the web. Toni PS I also think you have come to the right decission in regards to your son.

Dave....I know I'm new here and maybe should shut my mouth... unfortunately that ain't my way!!! A lot more than TWO of us have replied to you...myself included. While it might not have been the reply you wanted or expected, we did respond to you as best we could... >From: "David L Snow" <dlsnow1@qwest.net> >Reply-To: DanvilleCrossing-L@rootsweb.com >To: DanvilleCrossing-L@rootsweb.com >Subject: Re: Dad...Am I a good Mom ??? >Date: Thu, 17 Jan 2002 07:21:00 -0700 > >Paulette, > >You bring tears to my eyes...women..... > >In other womens' minds....I know you've all ask this question...silent >answers or not... > >You've been there.....Who would ask the acceptance of their Father is >Important...!!! > >To me....they are True Mothers..... > >I've heard from 2 of you....OUT OF 150 on this LIST......... > >I consider most Black Women in the local area (and that includes 'White >Trailer Park Trash') as BREEDERS.....(mostly because that's what I have >always been taught by YOU...southern women) ........(and it's not that the >'Breeders' never asked...Dad (if he was around??)...Am I a Good a MoM >???.....(I want you Southern Women to THINK about that question 'Big >Time'...????) > >WOMEN........ANSWER THIS QUESTION.....THE one, that one of your OWN has >posed...."Dad..Am I a good Mom?" > >She's obviously has 'hit' a BIGTIME CHORD here with you females.....and >I've asked the 'Right Question'.... > >Your Silence is Obvious........If YOU want her here to ask YOU the >'QUESTION' directly......I will do that... > >She will ask you directly........ > >Dave >------------------------------------------------------------------ >At 07:47 PM 1/17/02 -0500, Parastruct@aol.com wrote: > >Hey Dave! > > > >You haven't heard from me yet. :) > > > >I have been behind in my e-mail reading and have come across your >question > >about daughters asking Dad's if they are good Mom's. > > > >First, I think it's wonderful you and your daughter are as close as you >are. > >Most daughters always want to be close to their Daddy's and especially >try > >hard for their approval in every aspect of their lives. I know I did. I > >didn't realize until I was older how hard I had tried. > > > >I never ask my father if I was a good mother. I knew I had his approval > >because he would comment on how I was raising my son. He was always >bragging > >on me which made me feel like I was doing a good job. You know you are >the > >same way. I know your daughter knows she is a good Mom, BUT every now >and > >again, even though you remind us all the time as daughters, we need a >little > >reassurance we are still doing good in our father's eyes. It doesn't >hurt >to > >say it over and over and over again we are doing good. > > > >My father passed away in March 1987. I miss him and often wonder how he > >would feel about what I've done in my life these past years. I keep him >in > >mind on decision I make and think if he would be proud of me. > > > >The way you talk about your daughter, we all know how proud you are of >her, > >and I'm sure you say and show her daily how you feel. Now, let's hear >what > >you said to her. :) > > > >Paulette > > > > > >==== DanvilleCrossing Mailing List ==== > >My family tree must have been used for Firewood !!! > > > > >==== DanvilleCrossing Mailing List ==== >My family tree must have been used for Firewood !!! > _________________________________________________________________ Join the world’s largest e-mail service with MSN Hotmail. http://www.hotmail.com

Hey Dave! You haven't heard from me yet. :) I have been behind in my e-mail reading and have come across your question about daughters asking Dad's if they are good Mom's. First, I think it's wonderful you and your daughter are as close as you are. Most daughters always want to be close to their Daddy's and especially try hard for their approval in every aspect of their lives. I know I did. I didn't realize until I was older how hard I had tried. I never ask my father if I was a good mother. I knew I had his approval because he would comment on how I was raising my son. He was always bragging on me which made me feel like I was doing a good job. You know you are the same way. I know your daughter knows she is a good Mom, BUT every now and again, even though you remind us all the time as daughters, we need a little reassurance we are still doing good in our father's eyes. It doesn't hurt to say it over and over and over again we are doing good. My father passed away in March 1987. I miss him and often wonder how he would feel about what I've done in my life these past years. I keep him in mind on decision I make and think if he would be proud of me. The way you talk about your daughter, we all know how proud you are of her, and I'm sure you say and show her daily how you feel. Now, let's hear what you said to her. :) Paulette

Dave, I strongly agree with Paulette. Keep up with the good work with your daughter and your new granddaughter. Bill Parastruct@aol.com wrote: > Hey Dave! > > You haven't heard from me yet. :) > > I have been behind in my e-mail reading and have come across your question > about daughters asking Dad's if they are good Mom's. > > First, I think it's wonderful you and your daughter are as close as you are. > Most daughters always want to be close to their Daddy's and especially try > hard for their approval in every aspect of their lives. I know I did. I > didn't realize until I was older how hard I had tried. > > I never ask my father if I was a good mother. I knew I had his approval > because he would comment on how I was raising my son. He was always bragging > on me which made me feel like I was doing a good job. You know you are the > same way. I know your daughter knows she is a good Mom, BUT every now and > again, even though you remind us all the time as daughters, we need a little > reassurance we are still doing good in our father's eyes. It doesn't hurt to > say it over and over and over again we are doing good. > > My father passed away in March 1987. I miss him and often wonder how he > would feel about what I've done in my life these past years. I keep him in > mind on decision I make and think if he would be proud of me. > > The way you talk about your daughter, we all know how proud you are of her, > and I'm sure you say and show her daily how you feel. Now, let's hear what > you said to her. :) > > Paulette > > ==== DanvilleCrossing Mailing List ==== > My family tree must have been used for Firewood !!!

Donna, Your one of the 2........no more, no less Not an issue of 'wanted or expected'.....didn't care....just wanted a Mother's answer ( more importantly your thoughts)... You did ... and I respect and appreciate your response... You directly were not being chastized..........sorry if I made you feel that way...... Dave ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- ------ At 08:27 PM 1/17/02 -0600, donna y. wrote: >Dave....I know I'm new here and maybe should shut my mouth... >unfortunately that ain't my way!!! >A lot more than TWO of us have replied to you...myself included. >While it might not have been the reply you wanted or expected, >we did respond to you as best we could... > > >>From: "David L Snow" <dlsnow1@qwest.net> >>Reply-To: DanvilleCrossing-L@rootsweb.com >>To: DanvilleCrossing-L@rootsweb.com >>Subject: Re: Dad...Am I a good Mom ??? >>Date: Thu, 17 Jan 2002 07:21:00 -0700 >> >>Paulette, >> >>You bring tears to my eyes...women..... >> >>In other womens' minds....I know you've all ask this question...silent >>answers or not... >> >>You've been there.....Who would ask the acceptance of their Father is >>Important...!!! >> >>To me....they are True Mothers..... >> >>I've heard from 2 of you....OUT OF 150 on this LIST......... >> >>I consider most Black Women in the local area (and that includes 'White >>Trailer Park Trash') as BREEDERS.....(mostly because that's what I have >>always been taught by YOU...southern women) ........(and it's not that the >>'Breeders' never asked...Dad (if he was around??)...Am I a Good a MoM >>???.....(I want you Southern Women to THINK about that question 'Big >>Time'...????) >> >>WOMEN........ANSWER THIS QUESTION.....THE one, that one of your OWN has >>posed...."Dad..Am I a good Mom?" >> >>She's obviously has 'hit' a BIGTIME CHORD here with you females.....and >>I've asked the 'Right Question'.... >> >>Your Silence is Obvious........If YOU want her here to ask YOU the >>'QUESTION' directly......I will do that... >> >>She will ask you directly........ >> >>Dave >>------------------------------------------------------------------ >>At 07:47 PM 1/17/02 -0500, Parastruct@aol.com wrote: >> >Hey Dave! >> > >> >You haven't heard from me yet. :) >> > >> >I have been behind in my e-mail reading and have come across your >>question >> >about daughters asking Dad's if they are good Mom's. >> > >> >First, I think it's wonderful you and your daughter are as close as you >>are. >> >Most daughters always want to be close to their Daddy's and especially >>try >> >hard for their approval in every aspect of their lives. I know I did. I >> >didn't realize until I was older how hard I had tried. >> > >> >I never ask my father if I was a good mother. I knew I had his approval >> >because he would comment on how I was raising my son. He was always >>bragging >> >on me which made me feel like I was doing a good job. You know you are >>the >> >same way. I know your daughter knows she is a good Mom, BUT every now >>and >> >again, even though you remind us all the time as daughters, we need a >>little >> >reassurance we are still doing good in our father's eyes. It doesn't >>hurt >>to >> >say it over and over and over again we are doing good. >> > >> >My father passed away in March 1987. I miss him and often wonder how he >> >would feel about what I've done in my life these past years. I keep him >>in >> >mind on decision I make and think if he would be proud of me. >> > >> >The way you talk about your daughter, we all know how proud you are of >>her, >> >and I'm sure you say and show her daily how you feel. Now, let's hear >>what >> >you said to her. :) >> > >> >Paulette >> > >> > >> >==== DanvilleCrossing Mailing List ==== >> >My family tree must have been used for Firewood !!! >> > >> >> >>==== DanvilleCrossing Mailing List ==== >>My family tree must have been used for Firewood !!! >> > > > > >_________________________________________________________________ >Join the world�s largest e-mail service with MSN Hotmail. >http://www.hotmail.com > > >==== DanvilleCrossing Mailing List ==== >My genealogy software won't accept "spaceship" >as a "Place of Birth"..... Now What ???? >

Donna, Your one of the 2........no more, no less Not an issue of 'wanted or expected'.....didn't care....just wanted a Mother's answer ( more importantly your thoughts)... You did ... and I respect and appreciate your response... You directly were not being chastized..........sorry if I made you feel that way...... Dave ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- ------ At 08:27 PM 1/17/02 -0600, donna y. wrote: >Dave....I know I'm new here and maybe should shut my mouth... >unfortunately that ain't my way!!! >A lot more than TWO of us have replied to you...myself included. >While it might not have been the reply you wanted or expected, >we did respond to you as best we could... > > >>From: "David L Snow" <dlsnow1@qwest.net> >>Reply-To: DanvilleCrossing-L@rootsweb.com >>To: DanvilleCrossing-L@rootsweb.com >>Subject: Re: Dad...Am I a good Mom ??? >>Date: Thu, 17 Jan 2002 07:21:00 -0700 >> >>Paulette, >> >>You bring tears to my eyes...women..... >> >>In other womens' minds....I know you've all ask this question...silent >>answers or not... >> >>You've been there.....Who would ask the acceptance of their Father is >>Important...!!! >> >>To me....they are True Mothers..... >> >>I've heard from 2 of you....OUT OF 150 on this LIST......... >> >>I consider most Black Women in the local area (and that includes 'White >>Trailer Park Trash') as BREEDERS.....(mostly because that's what I have >>always been taught by YOU...southern women) ........(and it's not that the >>'Breeders' never asked...Dad (if he was around??)...Am I a Good a MoM >>???.....(I want you Southern Women to THINK about that question 'Big >>Time'...????) >> >>WOMEN........ANSWER THIS QUESTION.....THE one, that one of your OWN has >>posed...."Dad..Am I a good Mom?" >> >>She's obviously has 'hit' a BIGTIME CHORD here with you females.....and >>I've asked the 'Right Question'.... >> >>Your Silence is Obvious........If YOU want her here to ask YOU the >>'QUESTION' directly......I will do that... >> >>She will ask you directly........ >> >>Dave >>------------------------------------------------------------------ >>At 07:47 PM 1/17/02 -0500, Parastruct@aol.com wrote: >> >Hey Dave! >> > >> >You haven't heard from me yet. :) >> > >> >I have been behind in my e-mail reading and have come across your >>question >> >about daughters asking Dad's if they are good Mom's. >> > >> >First, I think it's wonderful you and your daughter are as close as you >>are. >> >Most daughters always want to be close to their Daddy's and especially >>try >> >hard for their approval in every aspect of their lives. I know I did. I >> >didn't realize until I was older how hard I had tried. >> > >> >I never ask my father if I was a good mother. I knew I had his approval >> >because he would comment on how I was raising my son. He was always >>bragging >> >on me which made me feel like I was doing a good job. You know you are >>the >> >same way. I know your daughter knows she is a good Mom, BUT every now >>and >> >again, even though you remind us all the time as daughters, we need a >>little >> >reassurance we are still doing good in our father's eyes. It doesn't >>hurt >>to >> >say it over and over and over again we are doing good. >> > >> >My father passed away in March 1987. I miss him and often wonder how he >> >would feel about what I've done in my life these past years. I keep him >>in >> >mind on decision I make and think if he would be proud of me. >> > >> >The way you talk about your daughter, we all know how proud you are of >>her, >> >and I'm sure you say and show her daily how you feel. Now, let's hear >>what >> >you said to her. :) >> > >> >Paulette >> > >> > >> >==== DanvilleCrossing Mailing List ==== >> >My family tree must have been used for Firewood !!! >> > >> >> >>==== DanvilleCrossing Mailing List ==== >>My family tree must have been used for Firewood !!! >> > > > > >_________________________________________________________________ >Join the world�s largest e-mail service with MSN Hotmail. >http://www.hotmail.com > > >==== DanvilleCrossing Mailing List ==== >My genealogy software won't accept "spaceship" >as a "Place of Birth"..... Now What ???? >

I told her what you always wanted to here......... 'I'm suprised you'd ask, Ash. Thought you'd knew... I'm Proud of you....You're a Good Mom....In my eyes.... Dad ------------------------------------------------------- At 07:47 PM 1/17/02 -0500, you wrote: >Hey Dave! > >You haven't heard from me yet. :) > >I have been behind in my e-mail reading and have come across your question >about daughters asking Dad's if they are good Mom's. > >First, I think it's wonderful you and your daughter are as close as you are. >Most daughters always want to be close to their Daddy's and especially try >hard for their approval in every aspect of their lives. I know I did. I >didn't realize until I was older how hard I had tried. > >I never ask my father if I was a good mother. I knew I had his approval >because he would comment on how I was raising my son. He was always bragging >on me which made me feel like I was doing a good job. You know you are the >same way. I know your daughter knows she is a good Mom, BUT every now and >again, even though you remind us all the time as daughters, we need a little >reassurance we are still doing good in our father's eyes. It doesn't hurt to >say it over and over and over again we are doing good. > >My father passed away in March 1987. I miss him and often wonder how he >would feel about what I've done in my life these past years. I keep him in >mind on decision I make and think if he would be proud of me. > >The way you talk about your daughter, we all know how proud you are of her, >and I'm sure you say and show her daily how you feel. Now, let's hear what >you said to her. :) > >Paulette > > >==== DanvilleCrossing Mailing List ==== >My family tree must have been used for Firewood !!! >

Paulette, You bring tears to my eyes...women..... In other womens' minds....I know you've all ask this question...silent answers or not... You've been there.....Who would ask the acceptance of their Father is Important...!!! To me....they are True Mothers..... I've heard from 2 of you....OUT OF 150 on this LIST......... I consider most Black Women in the local area (and that includes 'White Trailer Park Trash') as BREEDERS.....(mostly because that's what I have always been taught by YOU...southern women) ........(and it's not that the 'Breeders' never asked...Dad (if he was around??)...Am I a Good a MoM ???.....(I want you Southern Women to THINK about that question 'Big Time'...????) WOMEN........ANSWER THIS QUESTION.....THE one, that one of your OWN has posed...."Dad..Am I a good Mom?" She's obviously has 'hit' a BIGTIME CHORD here with you females.....and I've asked the 'Right Question'.... Your Silence is Obvious........If YOU want her here to ask YOU the 'QUESTION' directly......I will do that... She will ask you directly........ Dave ------------------------------------------------------------------ At 07:47 PM 1/17/02 -0500, Parastruct@aol.com wrote: >Hey Dave! > >You haven't heard from me yet. :) > >I have been behind in my e-mail reading and have come across your question >about daughters asking Dad's if they are good Mom's. > >First, I think it's wonderful you and your daughter are as close as you are. >Most daughters always want to be close to their Daddy's and especially try >hard for their approval in every aspect of their lives. I know I did. I >didn't realize until I was older how hard I had tried. > >I never ask my father if I was a good mother. I knew I had his approval >because he would comment on how I was raising my son. He was always bragging >on me which made me feel like I was doing a good job. You know you are the >same way. I know your daughter knows she is a good Mom, BUT every now and >again, even though you remind us all the time as daughters, we need a little >reassurance we are still doing good in our father's eyes. It doesn't hurt to >say it over and over and over again we are doing good. > >My father passed away in March 1987. I miss him and often wonder how he >would feel about what I've done in my life these past years. I keep him in >mind on decision I make and think if he would be proud of me. > >The way you talk about your daughter, we all know how proud you are of her, >and I'm sure you say and show her daily how you feel. Now, let's hear what >you said to her. :) > >Paulette > > >==== DanvilleCrossing Mailing List ==== >My family tree must have been used for Firewood !!! >

Paulette, You bring tears to my eyes...women..... In other womens' minds....I know you've all ask this question...silent answers or not... You've been there.....Who would ask the acceptance of their Father is Important...!!! To me....they are True Mothers..... I've heard from 2 of you....OUT OF 150 on this LIST......... I consider most Black Women in the local area (and that includes 'White Trailer Park Trash') as BREEDERS.....(mostly because that's what I have always been taught by YOU...southern women) ........(and it's not that the 'Breeders' never asked...Dad (if he was around??)...Am I a Good a MoM ???.....(I want you Southern Women to THINK about that question 'Big Time'...????) WOMEN........ANSWER THIS QUESTION.....THE one, that one of your OWN has posed...."Dad..Am I a good Mom?" She's obviously has 'hit' a BIGTIME CHORD here with you females.....and I've asked the 'Right Question'.... Your Silence is Obvious........If YOU want her here to ask YOU the 'QUESTION' directly......I will do that... She will ask you directly........ Dave ------------------------------------------------------------------ At 07:47 PM 1/17/02 -0500, Parastruct@aol.com wrote: >Hey Dave! > >You haven't heard from me yet. :) > >I have been behind in my e-mail reading and have come across your question >about daughters asking Dad's if they are good Mom's. > >First, I think it's wonderful you and your daughter are as close as you are. >Most daughters always want to be close to their Daddy's and especially try >hard for their approval in every aspect of their lives. I know I did. I >didn't realize until I was older how hard I had tried. > >I never ask my father if I was a good mother. I knew I had his approval >because he would comment on how I was raising my son. He was always bragging >on me which made me feel like I was doing a good job. You know you are the >same way. I know your daughter knows she is a good Mom, BUT every now and >again, even though you remind us all the time as daughters, we need a little >reassurance we are still doing good in our father's eyes. It doesn't hurt to >say it over and over and over again we are doing good. > >My father passed away in March 1987. I miss him and often wonder how he >would feel about what I've done in my life these past years. I keep him in >mind on decision I make and think if he would be proud of me. > >The way you talk about your daughter, we all know how proud you are of her, >and I'm sure you say and show her daily how you feel. Now, let's hear what >you said to her. :) > >Paulette > > >==== DanvilleCrossing Mailing List ==== >My family tree must have been used for Firewood !!! >

TJ, I like you....<LOL>. Not sure of the 22 years in Law Enforcement.....you should have put me in Jail a long..long...time ago. Look.. 7 years alone and in pain..is not how you should spend your life.... I don't care what you have to say.......NOBODY should endour that degree of pain... (Do you know that there are many women on this List who are in the same 'Boat' as you...they share the same pain that you do in Loniness...they settle for something less than they're entitled too....that is....someone who holds closely at night...kisses them in the night....is glad you're there...so that they can...feel you next to them.....you think this is different than it was 2 hundred years ago????...it's not)...I'll tell you a true story..so that we don't get to far away from genealogy here.....and have the assholes complain........ Dave PS: Your lack of answers to me women...to the original question...'Dad, Am I a good Mom ?' ....is deafening....Your lack of response tells me a great deal about you.......I know that YOU have ALL asked THE Question.....All Mothers DO ask this question... if to nobody else than themselves........What re-assurance were you seeking from your Father????....not your Mother...but your Father.....?????? PLEASE answer Ashley's original question to me.........I would like to understand the dynamics here... so that I can re-assure her appropiately....She is IMPORTANT to me.....I consider her a Very Good Mother....but, then...I picked her own adoptive mother to raise her....so my judgement is lacking here....You and I both know that there are multiple questions being asked here that will establish the relationship that she has, not only, with me but also with ,and I add, PRIMARILY with her Mother...which is compounded in that, she has an adoptive mother, but more importantly, that her adoptive mother's mother is a Bigot. To the story.......I'm tired..later...been up since 2 AM.......the answers from you 'southern women'....as Debbie refers to you......is more important to me than any story.....even-though it details the McKenzies of Benton County ....sucking blood from their cattle in order to stay alive ....tiz true....I will give you the history back to 1055...and you will be proud...in Big Sandy..but, NOT the connection that you want....that I have.....and you can't !!!!!!! ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- ----------------- At 05:06 PM 1/16/02 -0800, TJstubby wrote: >Nope stayting single at 45 its to hard to date after 7 years of being >single: ever women wants to Change me. Sort of Hard 22 years in Law >Enforcement. >Gets you set in your ways. TJ >----- Original Message ----- >From: David L Snow <dlsnow1@qwest.net> >To: TJstubby <TJStubby@msn.com> >Sent: Friday, January 11, 2002 5:31 AM >Subject: Re: Dad...Am I a good Mom ??? > > >> Hey Stubby, >> >> You're a Hoot...!!!!!!! >> >> Sorry for your loss...but then, maybe not..LOL.... >> >> Did 'They' tell you....'You can do better' than Her...??? >> >> Suspect they have..'they're' right, ya know.... >> >> Think you already have.... >> >> Dave >> >> PS: Between you & me.....this is a very 'big' problem facing society >> now......50+ year old women seperated from their husbands of many >> years....tell you a story later..... >> ---------------------------------------------------------------------- >> >> At 10:05 PM 1/15/02 -0800, you wrote: >> >They find they cann't go to their Mom because she is my ex. and New >> >Boyfriend ( 7 years now) LOL doesn't want em around.Her loss my gain. >> >----- Original Message ----- >> >From: David L Snow <dlsnow1@qwest.net> >> >To: TJstubby <TJStubby@msn.com>; <DanvilleCrossing-L@rootsweb.com> >> >Sent: Friday, January 11, 2002 4:25 AM >> >Subject: Re: Dad...Am I a good Mom ??? >> > >> > >> >> At 09:07 PM 1/15/02 -0800, TJstubby wrote: >> >> >> >> Hey Dad, >> >> >> >> 3 Daughters, but only 1 grand-daughter..... >> >> >> >> Appreciate your reply (surprised at a Dad answering my >question.....you're >> >> the wrong gender to the question posed)... >> >> >> >> But...take what I can get.... >> >> >> >> Stubby.....your girls ever ask you about how YOU felt about the how >they >> >> MOTHERED ??? >> >> >> >> Let me say this...for a daughter to ask her father what his thoughts >are >> >> concerning her performance as a Mother, is a significant compliment to >> >him, >> >> in that, his daughter has enough respect of him to consider his opinion >to >> >> be important....she believes his judgement (by what he tried to teach >her >> >> as worthy).... >> >> >> >> Yea...Nay....???? >> >> >> >> Dave >> >> >> >> >3 Daughter 5 grandaughters : You don't know until their raised >Hon.Just >> >Love >> >> >em and do what is best for you and them. Dad >> >> >----- Original Message ----- >> >> >From: David L Snow <dlsnow1@qwest.net> >> >> >To: <DanvilleCrossing-L@rootsweb.com> >> >> >Sent: Friday, January 11, 2002 2:48 AM >> >> >Subject: Dad...Am I a good Mom ??? >> >> > >> >> > >> >> >> Whooaaa...........got THIS question last night...from my daughter >with >> >a 2 >> >> >> month year old..... >> >> >> >> >> >> Slapped me 'upside the face'....she did... >> >> >> >> >> >> Haven't sorted 'it' all out yet......I'll tell you my answer later >> >...to >> >> >> both the Men and the Women on the list...seperately... >> >> >> >> >> >> Have a question before 'The Answer'....... >> >> >> >> >> >> I'm knew to this....but.... >> >> >> >> >> >> Do you Women always ask this question of your Fathers ????? >> >> >> >> >> >> Help me here........ >> >> >> >> >> >> Dave >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> ==== DanvilleCrossing Mailing List ==== >> >> >> What do you mean my Birth Certificate expired ??? >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> > >> >> > >> >> >==== DanvilleCrossing Mailing List ==== >> >> >GENEALOGY goes on... and on... and on... >> >> > >> >> >> >> >> > >> >> >

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