Mike, What you just wrote sounds like an endorsement of what Carolyn has done - sent hateful messages to people through private e-mail. I didn't subscribe to this or any other RootsWeb maillist to end up receiving ugly insulting messages from members who might not like my opinions, my style, my name, or my address. Some list owners make an opposite rule from yours, telling people NOT to use the list for private flame wars, and that infractions could get people unsubbed from the list. I like that better. Sharon