In a message dated 1/7/2006 1:17:41 PM Central Standard Time, GLewis2035@aol.com writes: I can only say about Cherokee people I know. The respect is mutual between husband and wife and they have great tolerance and understanding between them. The husband honors her because she is the life giver is dedicated to careing for family. She honors her husband because is the provider for this family and dedicated to his duties as the provider. grandma I think that must be the way our life has gone for 50+ years, you don't see much of that today. Barbara In Oklahoma Native America