Maybe when I do talk I say too much but I speak from the heart with those I care about. We lost an elderly cousin this week and it has bee difficult. She was a good woman. I am emotional at this time. We tease Dan a lot and playfully pick on him but he is a wonderfull careing man and knows when we are playing. I love him as a brother. Times have been hard for most of us. His problem is , he knows how to comfort others but his heart doesn't know how to be comforted even when he has done the best he can do. He spends much time in grief and kind of shuts us out. I am scolding him for not letting us be with him when the going gets rough. grandma