In a message dated 1/7/2006 3:12:33 AM Central Standard Time, Roswellkidd@aol.com writes: I think the Cherokee women were the heads of households and the men went to live in the women's home. I don't think think that would have happened. Kirby was also Indian, and I think the daughters and the father highly respected him. I wish I knew more, and I will probably never know. Julia I can only say about Cherokee people I know. The respect is mutual between husband and wife and they have great tolerance and understanding between them. The husband honors her because she is the life giver is dedicated to careing for family. She honors her husband because is the provider for this family and dedicated to his duties as the provider. grandma