Hi Jim, Some people don't and if told my children and I will respect your wishes. Regards, Linda ----- Original Message ----- From: "Jim Morrison, Jr." <jmorsn@coastalnet.com> To: <CHAHTA-L@rootsweb.com> Sent: Monday, April 09, 2001 1:29 AM Subject: Re: Yes and no ma'am Re: [CHAHTA] twinkies > It all goes back to how you were raised and the degree of respect you were > taught!! My father was in the military so I was raised to show respect for > others, my elders and those of authority. Whether they deserved it or not!!! > > Me? I dispise being called "Sir"!! > Jim > > jmorsn@coastalnet.com > http://www2.coastalnet.com/~g7d3j4nb/ > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "Juli Kearns" <jmme@mindspring.com> > To: <CHAHTA-L@rootsweb.com> > Sent: Sunday, April 08, 2001 2:49 PM > Subject: Yes and no ma'am Re: [CHAHTA] twinkies > > > > "Good manners" are not necessarily "good manners" in another. I grew up > in > > the northwest and had never heard "Yes maam" and "No maam", "Yes sir" and > > "No sir". Not even when visiting relatives in the midwest had I heard > > this. We moved to Ga when I was 10 and when I would say "Yes" to a > > teacher, they would respond, "Yes, what?" And I would say, "No?" And they > > would say, "No, what?" I was without a clue and completely confused. > What > > in the world did they want me to say? When I was finally informed what > was > > going on, I considered it particularly rigorous, unsympathetic, and > > ignorant on the part of these adults to not understand that regional > > customs may just be that, regional. Indeed, in the situations in which I > > had grown up, the use of "Yes maam" etc. would have been suggestive to the > > ears of both pandering and subjugation. A simple yes or no was enough. > > > > What makes good manners is the spirit in which another individual is > treated. > > > > Juli > > > > > > At 01:06 PM 4/8/01 -0700, you wrote: > > >I don't know if good manners are Indian ways or southern ways, but I > raised > > >my children up to say yes mam and no sir, etc. One of mine came home > from > > >school one day and said to me "what". I asked her if I needed to wash > out > > >her mouth or her ears and asked did she speak to her teachers that way to > > >which she responded, "Ms. Jones doesn't want me to call her Mam" to which > I > > >said "Ms Jones can have no manners if she wishes but that option is not > open > > >to you, you will call anyone that is 20 years older than you mam or > sir." > > >Fay > > >----- Original Message ----- > > > > > > ==== CHAHTA Mailing List ==== > > Need more CHOCTAW information. Visit Rusty Lang's pages at > http://www.choctaw-web.com for articles, censuses, etc. > > > > > > > ==== CHAHTA Mailing List ==== > Markie and Fay's CHOCTAW-SOUTHEAST Home Page: > http://freepages.cultures.rootsweb.com/~choctaw/ >