Good for you, Fay! I cannot STAND children who call elders by their first name or don't say Maam/Sir. dusty ----- Original Message ----- From: faynshep <faynshep@telapex.com> To: <CHAHTA-L@rootsweb.com> Sent: Sunday, April 08, 2001 3:06 PM Subject: Re: [CHAHTA] twinkies > I don't know if good manners are Indian ways or southern ways, but I raised > my children up to say yes mam and no sir, etc. One of mine came home from > school one day and said to me "what". I asked her if I needed to wash out > her mouth or her ears and asked did she speak to her teachers that way to > which she responded, "Ms. Jones doesn't want me to call her Mam" to which I > said "Ms Jones can have no manners if she wishes but that option is not open > to you, you will call anyone that is 20 years older than you mam or sir." > Fay > ----- Original Message ----- > From: Linda Branum <mamalin@1s.net> > To: <CHAHTA-L@rootsweb.com> > Sent: Sunday, April 08, 2001 9:56 AM > Subject: Re: [CHAHTA] twinkies > > > > All is well put thats for sure. I have always tried to teach my children > > to say Yes Sir and No Sir and Yes Mame and No Mame.( Boy I don't think I > > spelled that right <):-) > > Some people think thats not right but to always respect your ELDERS is > what > > I have always been taught. My Dad taught me that and I do love him for > that. > > There are so many children who don't say that I have always been told > that > > my children were so polite and I feel that me teaching them that my Father > > taught me is why they feel that way about my children. > > Linda > > ----- Original Message ----- > > From: "Dusty" <dustyc@microgear.net> > > To: <CHAHTA-L@rootsweb.com> > > Sent: Sunday, April 08, 2001 11:13 AM > > Subject: Re: [CHAHTA] twinkies > > > > > > > Makes perfect sense. Very similar to the way I was raised. The fact > that > > > we were "Indian" was hardly ever brought up. I can't remember ever > being > > > told that something was the "Indian" way to act....just the "right" way > to > > > act. > > > > > > dusty > > > ----- Original Message ----- > > > From: Tsa na Jordan <medicgirl78@yahoo.com> > > > To: <CHAHTA-L@rootsweb.com> > > > Sent: Saturday, April 07, 2001 11:13 PM > > > Subject: Re: [CHAHTA] twinkies > > > > > > > > > > You know, as I look back on my "raising", I see that even though we > were > > > > told that we were Cherokee/Choctaw, we weren't given the religous > > culture > > > in > > > > detail, but we were raised to follow the general Indian beliefs. Such > > as: > > > > environmental protection, respect to animals, and respect of elders. > I > > > had > > > > always thought of these as general "good ethics", but the more I look > at > > > > people and the older I get, I realize that these were taught to me > > because > > > > they were taught to my father, and his father, and his father, etc. > > They > > > > were a "way of life" not something that my elders really thought > about, > > > just > > > > the way they had lived and those before them had lived. Does this > make > > > > sense? I'm not so good at putting this stuff down in black and white. > > > > Take care and go safely! > > > > Tsana > > > > > > > > ----- Original Message ----- > > > > From: John & Arla Williams <jaws@crosstel.net> > > > > To: <CHAHTA-L@rootsweb.com> > > > > Sent: Thursday, April 05, 2001 9:32 PM > > > > Subject: Re: [CHAHTA] twinkies > > > > > > > > > > > > > Dusty one of the things I see as I am out and about doing shows and > > > > talking > > > > > to people is those people who connect with their long ago indigenous > > > > > Ancestors seem to have a better grasp of taking care of community > and > > > the > > > > > Earth.It is those who can't seem to find the connection that have a > > > > problem > > > > > with hearing. Arla > > > > > ----- Original Message ----- > > > > > From: "Dusty" <dustyc@microgear.net> > > > > > To: <CHAHTA-L@rootsweb.com> > > > > > Sent: Thursday, April 05, 2001 4:10 PM > > > > > Subject: Re: [CHAHTA] twinkies > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > The problem seems to be, with people who have no Indian blood, > > getting > > > > > them > > > > > > to LISTEN. The native people of this country are far more in tune > > > with > > > > > what > > > > > > is going on re this continent than the invaders, but those who are > > all > > > > > into > > > > > > technology and the worship of man's knowledge rather than Gods > > > knowledge > > > > > > seem to screw everything up and then wonder what happened to make > > > > things > > > > > go > > > > > > wrong. IMHO > > > > > > > > > > > > dusty > > > > > > ----- Original Message ----- > > > > > > From: Barbara Ellison <greybird7@pisp.net> > > > > > > To: <CHAHTA-L@rootsweb.com> > > > > > > Sent: Thursday, April 05, 2001 2:01 PM > > > > > > Subject: Re: [CHAHTA] twinkies > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Those who have grown up in Indian communities but seem to have > no > > > > > > knowledge > > > > > > > of their own spirituality are still aware of something inside > > that > > > is > > > > > > > different, even if they don't know what it is.(Because of the > > thick > > > > > > > assimilation) > > > > > > > And it is my hope that more of our people will recognise that we > > are > > > > not > > > > > > > "second class" and that our spirituality is not just a matter of > > > > > > "beliefs", > > > > > > > and that it is not "inferior" to the spirituality any other race > > of > > > > > > > people...It is also my hope that those non-Indians who can learn > a > > > > > better > > > > > > > way of living in balance from Indians, or whoever, will do so... > > > > > > > B. > > > > > > > ----- Original Message ----- > > > > > > > From: "Gemma West" <gemmawest@usa.net> > > > > > > > To: <CHAHTA-L@rootsweb.com> > > > > > > > Sent: Thursday, April 05, 2001 1:35 PM > > > > > > > Subject: [CHAHTA] twinkies > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > What has happened for many people is that they wander through > > life > > > > > > trying > > > > > > > to > > > > > > > > figure out what is wrong...trying to figure out why they don't > > fit > > > > in. > > > > > > > > Attempts are made to mold themselves into someone else's > > > defintions > > > > of > > > > > > > good > > > > > > > > and bad. These attempts fail. Finally that person decides to > > > look > > > > to > > > > > > > their > > > > > > > > ancestors. They find themselves. They finally feel > > comfortable. > > > > It > > > > > is > > > > > > > > obvious to all that ancestors shape our biological > > > characteristics. > > > > > It > > > > > > is > > > > > > > > obvious to me that ancestors shape our spirituality. The sad > > > thing > > > > is > > > > > > > that > > > > > > > > sometimes the assimilation is so thick that you can grow up > > around > > > > > > Indians > > > > > > > and > > > > > > > > still not know your own spirituality. The beautiful thing is > > > > finding > > > > > > the > > > > > > > few > > > > > > > > who have refused assimilation and are willing to share > > knowledge. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > When non-Indian people ask to be allowed into the community it > > > > causes > > > > > us > > > > > > > to > > > > > > > > question ourselves. Does community still exist? What are > they > > > here > > > > > to > > > > > > > get? > > > > > > > > Are we really different from them? I think the great thing > about > > > > this > > > > > > > reverse > > > > > > > > acculturation is that it is spurring some of us to re-embrace > > our > > > > own > > > > > > > > ancestors. It is removing the shame that our elders had to > live > > > > with. > > > > > > > This > > > > > > > > shame had no place and that is becoming clear to new > > generations. > > > > If > > > > > we > > > > > > > can > > > > > > > > influence people to live a balanced life then that is a great > > > thing. > > > > > > > After > > > > > > > > all, our children and their children will have to live in a > > world > > > > > shaped > > > > > > > by > > > > > > > > the parents. We can not afford to be selfish with principles > of > > > > > > balance. > > > > > > > It > > > > > > > > seems that they need these principles much more than we do. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Barbara Ellison <greybird7@pisp.net> wrote: > > > > > > > > "Our spirituality" is not "just an idea" and it is not > something > > > we > > > > > went > > > > > > > to > > > > > > > > class and learned somewhere, or got off the internet...it is > > born > > > in > > > > > us > > > > > > > > (which is obvious to those Indians who were raised surrounded > by > > a > > > > > white > > > > > > > > society) and a non-Indian may be able to learn from us some > > > things, > > > > > but > > > > > > > they > > > > > > > > cannot "acquire" what they are not born with, and their > attempts > > > to > > > > > put > > > > > > > > themselves on an "equal footing", with Indians, so to speak, > is > > at > > > > > best > > > > > > > > futile...and at worst, an attempt at cultural theft... > > > > > > > > B. > > > > > > > > ----- Original Message ----- > > > > > > > > From: "Dusty" <dustyc@microgear.net> > > > > > > > > To: <CHAHTA-L@rootsweb.com> > > > > > > > > Sent: Wednesday, April 04, 2001 8:59 PM > > > > > > > > Subject: Re: [CHAHTA] Elkdreamer, twinkies > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > I shall play devil's advocate again and expose my rear to > > > > everyone's > > > > > > > > slings > > > > > > > > > and arrows... > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > What about those people who do not "want to be NA", but just > > > think > > > > > > our > > > > > > > > > spirituality, philosophy and way of life is a good idea. > I've > > > had > > > > > > > > countless > > > > > > > > > elders tell me, "I don't care what kind of blood you have, > as > > > long > > > > > as > > > > > > > it's > > > > > > > > > human". Just because an Anglo wants to practice our ways > > > because > > > > it > > > > > > > works > > > > > > > > > for them, doesn't mean they deserve to be belittled by a > > > > derogatory > > > > > > > name. > > > > > > > > > Are there really that many among us that are so arrogant to > do > > > so. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Where did we ever get the idea that that we were so > exclusive? > > > > > Isn't > > > > > > > that > > > > > > > > > TRUE racism? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > dusty > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ----- Original Message ----- > > > > > > > > > From: John & Arla Williams <jaws@crosstel.net> > > > > > > > > > To: <CHAHTA-L@rootsweb.com> > > > > > > > > > Sent: Wednesday, April 04, 2001 8:45 PM > > > > > > > > > Subject: Re: [CHAHTA] Elkdreamer, twinkies > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Elkdreamer, Where did the term come from? Arla > > > > > > > > > > ----- Original Message ----- > > > > > > > > > > From: "Elkdreamer Wilkins" <elkdremr@hotmail.com> > > > > > > > > > > To: <CHAHTA-L@rootsweb.com> > > > > > > > > > > Sent: Wednesday, April 04, 2001 8:38 PM > > > > > > > > > > Subject: Re: [CHAHTA] Elkdreamer, twinkies > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Halito Fay > > > > > > > > > > > Mostly people that want to be N/A and really have no > > Indian > > > > > blood > > > > > > at > > > > > > > > all > > > > > > > > > > > Walk in Beauty > > > > > > > > > > > Elkdreamer > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ==== CHAHTA Mailing List ==== > > > > > > > > > > To subscribe to CHOCTAW-SOUTHEAST-L genealogy mail list: > > > > > > > > > > Send msg. to CHOCTAW-SOUTHEAST-L-request@rootsweb.com > > > > > > > > > > Put "one" word in "body" of message:... 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