A lot of times you may want to find out information about brothers and sisters, and half brothers and sisters but other family members don't. Remember to respect the other members while you are researching. My husband and his brothers were placed in Foster Care when he was 3 years old. Their father had left their mother and remarried and has three more boys. Their mother passed away. My husbands brothers have been in contact with their father, and have met their half brothers, my husband has not. He has no desire to meet these people, he says as far as he is concerned his father died when he was 3. I am researching the family to help my brother-in-laws - but I don't discuss it with my husband and I don't tell him what I've found, because quite frankly he doesn't care and I respect his right not to care. -----Original Message----- From: Cynthia Phillips [mailto:[email protected]] Sent: Wednesday, September 17, 2008 8:46 AM To: [email protected] Subject: Re: [CAN-USA-MIG] Finding Out About Siblings of Ancestors and my mother and aunt were reluctant to talk about my father. But a half brother 14 years younger than me found me last year and thru his mother (my stepmother) who is only 10 yrs older than me i have pictures of my father and the 2 half brothers, fouond out he was married 4 times and had a daughter with the last wife, found out how he died and that even tho he never got in touch with me he carried my picture with him. We know where the half sister is but she won't talk to us neither will her mother. And this is the wife he was with when he died. So what's the harm after all these years. but still I know so much more than i did. I have court documents on the marriages and divorces now. All because a half brother found me. cindy On Wed, Sep 17, 2008 at 6:54 AM, Betty <[email protected]> wrote: > Hello, > > I have always had an interest in finding out about the siblings of an > ancestor. It goes along with what was going on in the world - or in > their town - when the ancestor was living. I don't need to find out > everything about the sibling, but it would be nice to find out who they > married and how many children they had. After all those children would be > my ancestor's nephews and nieces. > > And, my "wish" - as someone else said - is that the descendants of > those nephews and nieces might have more information on my ancestor than I do. > > And I'd like to mention half-siblings. My grandmother eloped at Age 17, > probably because she was pregnant. She lost that baby, and then a 2nd > baby, and then had a daughter and 2 sons. The first husband and she > divorced in 1935, and she was already pregnant with the man who would > be her > 2nd husband. She then had her 2nd daughter and another son. This > aunt > and uncle are only about 8-9 years older than I am. > > The reason I'm mentioning this is that this aunt knew her mother much more > than I did. My father did not get along with his parents, so we didn't > visit all that much. And, my aunt knew her mother's mother more than I > did. So she can tell me lots of stories about her mother and > grandmother, > and I would never have heard them. > > Part of what I am saying is that there are more than 4-5 children in a > family, and they are spread apart in ages, the younger children in > the family knew the parents much longer than their oldest sibling - > in some cases. > > > Betty (near Lowell, MA, USA) > > List Administrator > > > (My aunt lost all 4 of her siblings during the 1990's. Her younger > brother "dropped dead" at Age 60. He didn't like to go to doctors. An > autopsy showed he had undiagnosed heart disease, undiagnosed lung disease, > and undiagnosed cancer at the time of his death. My aunt is relatively > healthy.) > > (This is another case of "life-threatening diseases" coming down from the > KIDDER / WILKINS ancestors near Calais, Maine. Or, as I was advised > several years ago, my parents and their siblings inherited "weak > immune systems" from their ancestors.) > > > > When you want to respond to a query or comment posted on this List, > I find it MUCH easier to post a new message -- remembering to include the > SUBJECT from the post you are responding to !! Please make sure there is > a SURNAME or place-name in the Subject. > > To search the archives: > http://archiver.rootsweb.com/cgi-bin/search?path=CAN-USA-MIGRATION > The information page is: > http://lists.rootsweb.com/index/other/Immigration/CAN-USA-MIGRATION.ht > ml > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > [email protected] with the word 'unsubscribe' > without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message > -- Cindyp http://grammiesbears.com http://teambeachbody.com/cindylu http://OurGV.com/cynthiaphillips http://shaklee.net/naturalngreen When you want to respond to a query or comment posted on this List, I find it MUCH easier to post a new message -- remembering to include the SUBJECT from the post you are responding to !! Please make sure there is a SURNAME or place-name in the Subject. 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You have brought up a very important point. Most families have some "dirty linen" somewhere in their tree. If it is upsetting to others within the family, do feel researchers should keep this information private for their own use. In Canada until 1969, Divorce Decrees passed through Parliament. It is possible to research Divroce Decrees via Archives Canada - have two supposed divorces in our family that aren't there? Did they actually divorce? Was the divorce done in the U.S. (not legal at the time in Canada) or just cohabitate with their second spouses? Although cohabitating is a common practice today, not so back then and some families do not want anyone poking around such things. My Mother's generation were very distressed by any divorces and even marital separations within the family. Definitely important to respect family feelings and sense of privacy, even if you don't understand it. Lauraine ----- Original Message ----- From: "Dalle, Nancy, Civ, 126 CES, CEOR, 4878" <[email protected]> To: <[email protected]> Sent: Wednesday, September 17, 2008 8:53 AM Subject: Re: [CAN-USA-MIG] Finding Out About Siblings of Ancestors >A lot of times you may want to find out information about brothers and > sisters, and half brothers and sisters but other family members don't. > Remember to respect the other members while you are researching. > > My husband and his brothers were placed in Foster Care when he was 3 years > old. Their father had left their mother and remarried and has three more > boys. Their mother passed away. My husbands brothers have been in > contact > with their father, and have met their half brothers, my husband has not. > He > has no desire to meet these people, he says as far as he is concerned his > father died when he was 3. > > I am researching the family to help my brother-in-laws - but I don't > discuss > it with my husband and I don't tell him what I've found, because quite > frankly he doesn't care and I respect his right not to care. > > > > -----Original Message----- > From: Cynthia Phillips [mailto:[email protected]] > Sent: Wednesday, September 17, 2008 8:46 AM > To: [email protected] > Subject: Re: [CAN-USA-MIG] Finding Out About Siblings of Ancestors > > and my mother and aunt were reluctant to talk about my father. But a half > brother 14 years younger than me found me last year and thru his mother > (my > stepmother) who is only 10 yrs older than me i have pictures of my father > and the 2 half brothers, fouond out he was married 4 times and had a > daughter with the last wife, found out how he died and that even tho he > never got in touch with me he carried my picture with him. > > We know where the half sister is but she won't talk to us neither will > her > mother. And this is the wife he was with when he died. So what's the > harm > after all these years. > > but still I know so much more than i did. I have court documents on the > marriages and divorces now. All because a half brother found me. > > cindy > > On Wed, Sep 17, 2008 at 6:54 AM, Betty <[email protected]> wrote: > >> Hello, >> >> I have always had an interest in finding out about the siblings of an >> ancestor. It goes along with what was going on in the world - or in >> their town - when the ancestor was living. I don't need to find out >> everything about the sibling, but it would be nice to find out who they >> married and how many children they had. After all those children would > be >> my ancestor's nephews and nieces. >> >> And, my "wish" - as someone else said - is that the descendants of >> those nephews and nieces might have more information on my ancestor than >> I > do. >> >> And I'd like to mention half-siblings. My grandmother eloped at Age > 17, >> probably because she was pregnant. She lost that baby, and then a 2nd >> baby, and then had a daughter and 2 sons. The first husband and she >> divorced in 1935, and she was already pregnant with the man who would >> be her >> 2nd husband. She then had her 2nd daughter and another son. This >> aunt >> and uncle are only about 8-9 years older than I am. >> >> The reason I'm mentioning this is that this aunt knew her mother much >> more >> than I did. My father did not get along with his parents, so we >> didn't >> visit all that much. And, my aunt knew her mother's mother more than I >> did. So she can tell me lots of stories about her mother and >> grandmother, >> and I would never have heard them. >> >> Part of what I am saying is that there are more than 4-5 children in a >> family, and they are spread apart in ages, the younger children in >> the family knew the parents much longer than their oldest sibling - >> in some cases. >> >> >> Betty (near Lowell, MA, USA) >> >> List Administrator >> >> >> (My aunt lost all 4 of her siblings during the 1990's. Her younger >> brother "dropped dead" at Age 60. He didn't like to go to doctors. > An >> autopsy showed he had undiagnosed heart disease, undiagnosed lung >> disease, >> and undiagnosed cancer at the time of his death. My aunt is >> relatively >> healthy.) >> >> (This is another case of "life-threatening diseases" coming down from >> the >> KIDDER / WILKINS ancestors near Calais, Maine. Or, as I was advised >> several years ago, my parents and their siblings inherited "weak >> immune systems" from their ancestors.) >> >> >> >> When you want to respond to a query or comment posted on this List, >> I find it MUCH easier to post a new message -- remembering to include the >> SUBJECT from the post you are responding to !! Please make sure there > is >> a SURNAME or place-name in the Subject. >> >> To search the archives: >> http://archiver.rootsweb.com/cgi-bin/search?path=CAN-USA-MIGRATION >> The information page is: >> http://lists.rootsweb.com/index/other/Immigration/CAN-USA-MIGRATION.ht >> ml >> >> >> >> ------------------------------- >> To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to >> [email protected] with the word 'unsubscribe' >> without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message >> > > > > -- > Cindyp > > http://grammiesbears.com > http://teambeachbody.com/cindylu > http://OurGV.com/cynthiaphillips > http://shaklee.net/naturalngreen > When you want to respond to a query or comment posted on this List, I > find > it MUCH easier to post a new message -- remembering to include the SUBJECT > from the post you are responding to !! Please make sure there is a > SURNAME or place-name in the Subject. > > To search the archives: > http://archiver.rootsweb.com/cgi-bin/search?path=CAN-USA-MIGRATION > The information page is: > http://lists.rootsweb.com/index/other/Immigration/CAN-USA-MIGRATION.html > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > [email protected] with the word 'unsubscribe' without > the quotes in the subject and the body of the message > When you want to respond to a query or comment posted on this List, I > find it MUCH easier to post a new message -- remembering to include the > SUBJECT from the post you are responding to !! 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