Josephine, Been awol from family history for a while owing to pressures of the living!! Hoping to get back to it this year. Please don't stop your wonderful help - I've had responses to messages I placed a long time ago and have been delighted by them. Have recently discovered a distant cousin in Australia who I hope to meet up with - a branch of the VINE family from Bristol that I knew nothing about. (Emma Vine born c.1838 had a sister Lucy who emigrated to Australia, Lucy's great great grandaughter has recently made contact - BIG THRILLS!!) I too have supplied supplementary information to other correspondents, but am lucky that that has been well received. Maggie Formerly OzDais/Halfajigsaw/Charnwood06@aol.com http://familytreemaker.genealogy.com/users/s/i/l/Margaret-A-Silver/ > Date: Sat, 04 Jan 2014 12:22:46 -0000 > From: "Josephine Jeremiah" <jojeremiah@dsl.pipex.com> > Subject: [B&S] A cautionary tale about helping with other people's > family history > To: bristol_and_somerset@rootsweb.com > Message-ID: <op.w85wn8hb42w82j@glasydorlan> > Content-Type: text/plain; charset=iso-8859-15; format=flowed; > delsp=yes > > Hi Listers, > > In 2000, I corresponded with someone a number of times about their family > history. Back then there wasn't as much information available as there is > now, but I helped as much as I could. > > Subsequently, my correspondent put a message on rootsweb naming past > family members and asking for any information about them. This went into > the rootsweb archives and is available for anyone to see now or the future. > > By 2011, new family records had become available so I thought of my > correspondent and found three marriages, two births and two baptisms, > which I sent off plus details of a site where further information could be > found on 19th-century family members. > > I did not receive a reply at the time, but now nearly three years later I > have received one. > > It turns out that my correspondent, rather than being pleased with the new > information, was annoyed with me for 'checking' on these family members > and had decided not to contact me any more. > > So I am in a dilemma, now, concerning other requests for family history > information which I receive almost daily, off list, from people who have > found my posts in the rootsweb archives. > > I now feel I don't want to carry on helping people, but it's not in my > nature to be dismissive when someone, often a complete stranger, asks for > help. > > I have the added problem that my main computer which is used for research > and e-mail has broken down, yet again, after only a year's use. I'm > currently using an old and very noisy computer, which is also very slow > and liable to break down, too. > > It's a dilemma I'll have to work out for myself, I know, but in the > meantime I may not be helping out, as much as I formerly did. I think that > I need to take a break as this has caused me much distress. > > Josephine

On Sat, 04 Jan 2014 18:36:50 -0000, Maggie Silver <ozdais@hotmail.com> wrote: > Been awol from family history for a while owing to pressures of the > living!! Hoping to get back to it this year. Hi Maggie, Welcome back to family history!Thanks for your message on the cautionary tale thread. As I went to bed, there was a thought in my mind about your message which conjured up a picture of the tram shelter in Fishponds in the early 20th century. I've now discovered why I had that picture in my mind! The tram shelter was on the Fishponds Road near the junction with New Station Road. Now I see that your TIDCOMBE family lived on the corner of New Station Road and Coronation Avenue in Fishponds. Josephine