In answering one of Melanie's questions, I know of several couples who were raised in the Brethren Faith, within the last 5 years. Their parents taught many good principles of faith, love, joy and mercy, yet, when their children were ready for marriage they traveled to another state, got married by the JOP (who was a minister) and called their parents to let them know they were married. Some said they were pushed into having a big wedding and they didn't want it. I suppose one could insert their own assumptions. Within a matter of time, the couple chose to leave the Faith. However, if you turn the pages back to the year, 1914, my grandparents were COB near Marshall County, IN. who went to the JOP to be married too! In asking my father about it, he said,"To them, it was the thing to do!" Even though they changed church affiliations, yet stayed Brethren, they enjoyed 11 children. And then........in the late 20's, 30's and still in the mid 40's many couples were married in the bride's home with just family and the minister. They didn't have much money, but to me it seemed better then going off to some JOP to be married. Just a chat, Shirley Frick >Melanie replies: > Also, if other couples I am researching in the same vicinity and time > period were NOT married by a minister of the gospel, *may I presume the > couple was not religious?* Would there be legitimate reasons that church > members would be married by a JOP? >

Thanks, Shirley. However, I am specifically inquiring about the early 1800s in Miami Valley, OH. At that time, cultural norms were different because it was newly settled and the country was still in it's infancy. On Thu, Feb 13, 2014 at 8:03 AM, Shirley Frick <slsf74@emypeople.net> wrote: > In answering one of Melanie's questions, I know of several couples who were > raised in the Brethren Faith, within the last 5 years. Their parents taught > many good principles of faith, love, joy and mercy, yet, when their > children > were ready for marriage they traveled to another state, got married by the > JOP (who was a minister) and called their parents to let them know they > were > married. Some said they were pushed into having a big wedding and they > didn't want it. I suppose one could insert their own assumptions. Within a > matter of time, the couple chose to leave the Faith. > > However, if you turn the pages back to the year, 1914, my grandparents were > COB near Marshall County, IN. who went to the JOP to be married too! In > asking my father about it, he said,"To them, it was the thing to do!" Even > though they changed church affiliations, yet stayed Brethren, they enjoyed > 11 children. > > And then........in the late 20's, 30's and still in the mid 40's many > couples were married in the bride's home with just family and the minister. > They didn't have much money, but to me it seemed better then going > off to some JOP to be married. > > Just a chat, > Shirley Frick > > > >Melanie replies: > > Also, if other couples I am researching in the same vicinity and time > > period were NOT married by a minister of the gospel, *may I presume the > > couple was not religious?* Would there be legitimate reasons that church > > members would be married by a JOP? > > > > > ------------------------ > Search the Archives at http://archiver.rootsweb.com/th/index/BRETHREN > ------------------------ > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > BRETHREN-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message >