hi, i think we all know how you feel, I was looking for my GGGGreat grandmother , Grace Blankinship 1st wife of William , and it drove me crazy . it's like she never exsisted. I went to the lib. in the town where they did free look up's state archives. churches in the area. I finally needed proof ,and then i found her. yea", she was on the paper work for her father as his child ,.he fought in the civil war. so please post the information so we know where you are lost. Joan