You sure don't want to alienate your son!!!!! If he had to make a choice between a woman he loves and his mom, You might come out on losing end. Most mothers(myself included) think they know more about raising other peoples children than the mom does. My mother-in-law was always critical about my housekeeping, child raising, way i treated her son. Dropped in without being invited, usually at the wrong time.Called for help with everything. Fed my kids sweets/junk food. Spoiled my kids rotten by giving them almost anything they asked for. She even asked the kids about personal things(sex, money, arguments). If we had an argument always took her son's side, right or wrong. I finally convinced my husband we needed to move. Now she only sees her grandchildren 2-3 times a year. Am proud member of the IBSSG --------------------------------- Do you Yahoo!? Yahoo! SiteBuilder - Free, easy-to-use web site design software

My son has always known how I feel about that girl and thank God he has never turned on me. We have had our arguments with me usually hanging up on him, but we still get along. He has now admitted that I was right all along and that he should have listened to me. Too late now, but that was his lesson to learn. I never had a Mother in law. She died when my ex-husband was only 15 and I did not meet him until he was 19. He still claims she would have loved me, but I don't know about that. Don't you know that is what grandparents are for is spoiling? Hehehe. I do it with mine too as much as I can, as I have 13 grandchildren and 1 GGrandson and am living off a very small ammount of disability now. I would never go so far as to ask mine about arguments or sex though. I proud myself on being the best Mother in law that I can be, I have had 3 son's in law at one time and have only 1 daughter in law. My son is my only son. None of them so far has commented on my being a bad one. Thank God. Of course, I would be the mother in law from hell if my son were to ever get a chance to marry this girl. I love my daughter in law like one of my own and anyone hurts any of my kids I fight back. I have never said anything about the way my grandchildren's Fathers treat them, but one time, and I felt I had to step in for my oldest grandson one time only. His Father is his step father. His little brother is his stepfather's real son. Of course he treats the two of them diffferently letting Andrew, the youngest, get away with everything and blaming Aaron for everything under the sun. One day when we were at their home for the weekend, Aaron was laying on his back on the living room floor watching tv with the rest of us and my daughter was in the kitchen. Andrew jumped on Aaron's stomach as hard as he could. Robbie started to blame Aaron for it saying he had done something to Andrew to make him do that. Well, I was watching them the entire time and saw what really happened. I told Robbie that I had been watching and had never taken my eye off them for a second and that Aaron had not done anything at all to Andrew. Robbie did not say another word to Aaron the rest of the day, but needless to say Andrew still got away with hurting his big brother, which was wrong. Mary Anne Cook IBSSG Frankfort, Indiana ----- Original Message ----- From: "Brenda Faye Parker" <fairplay51@yahoo.com> To: <BLACKSHEEP-CHAT-L@rootsweb.com> Sent: Wednesday, August 27, 2003 10:56 AM Subject: Re: [BSChat] Re: very unliked girlfriend > You sure don't want to alienate your son!!!!! If he had to make a choice between a woman he loves and his mom, You might come out on losing end. Most mothers(myself included) think they know more about raising other peoples children than the mom does. > > My mother-in-law was always critical about my housekeeping, child raising, way i treated her son. Dropped in without being invited, usually at the wrong time.Called for help with everything. Fed my kids sweets/junk food. Spoiled my kids rotten by giving them almost anything they asked for. She even asked the kids about personal things(sex, money, arguments). If we had an argument always took her son's side, right or wrong. > > I finally convinced my husband we needed to move. Now she only sees her grandchildren 2-3 times a year. > > > Am proud member of the IBSSG > > --------------------------------- > Do you Yahoo!? > Yahoo! SiteBuilder - Free, easy-to-use web site design software > > > ==== BLACKSHEEP-CHAT Mailing List ==== > Unsubscribe from the list: > Mailto:Blacksheep-Chat-L-request@rootsweb.com?subject=unsubscribe&body=unsub scribe > > ============================== > To join Ancestry.com and access our 1.2 billion online genealogy records, go to: > http://www.ancestry.com/rd/redir.asp?targetid=571&sourceid=1237 > >