Gloria, please don't be too hasty in your disappointment and shame! I've been divorced for only a couple of years now, altho separated for a dozen years. When divorce time finally rolled around (didn't happen sooner due to religious reasons), I discovered by talking with the children (who, by then were in their 30's) that my now ex-wife had been spreading the same sort of rumors about me during our 20 year marriage. If I had truly been a wife-beater & child molester for those 20 years that we were together, one would expect to find documentation of the facts. There is none...IT DIDN'T HAPPEN! Yet, due to her malicious mouth, I no longer have contact with any of the "common friends" we had while we were together. They were all too quick to believe the worst of me, because I "left a wife of 20 years with no way to support herself". They were all completely unaware that I left her the house, all the gold, silver & crystal, taking only my clothes & car. If you have documentation to substantiate the allegations against him, that's different...maybe...I've known of allegations having been levied by the supposed molested which were, in actuality gross exaggerations of facts (the "inappropriate touching" turned out to have been a pat on the rump in play). If you have the documentation, then I must excuse myself for writing this, and to offer you my most profound sympathy for having found out after the love you gave the man over the years. BEST WISHES! Mike IBSSG > [Original Message] > From: gloria m rodas <gloriamlh@juno.com> > To: <BlackSheep-L@rootsweb.com> > Date: 5/11/2002 1:20:22 AM > Subject: [BS-L] WOW... I MISSED you guys!!! > > somehow i got bumped off the list and received no sheeper mail for the > LONGEST time, and i was having MAJOR withdrawls!!! but I am back now and > hope to catch up real soon... > > I just found out recently that my GRANDFATHER, who I dearly loved and > respected, was a BLACK SHEEP of one of the worst kinds... he was a wife > beater, and a child molester. I am so TRAUMA stricken! I feel like my > whole relationship with him was a lie and a fraud, and i feel like i > never knew him at all, because that is such a gross-out to me , and i > don't associate with people who are like that, and I wouldn't have > associated with him if i had of known, but i didnt know , so i loved him, > and what kind of person did i love? confusion!!! The worst part of it > is that most of my own moral values were taught to me by HIM after my > father died, and I thought he was the absolute greatest thing since > chocolate... now i feel so like he used me to vindicate himself ...with > me he was a great guy and could look at himself that way through MY eyes, > yet to so many he was a sick-o and a criminal.... I think i am > definately going to need professional help with this one. In the > meantime, i am now more wary about asking questions and reading old > letters and diaries and stuff, because i sure got a surprise and a > half!!! > gloria ibssgx3 > > ________________________________________________________________ > GET INTERNET ACCESS FROM JUNO! > Juno offers FREE or PREMIUM Internet access for less! > Join Juno today! For your FREE software, visit: > http://dl.www.juno.com/get/web/. > > > ==== BlackSheep Mailing List ==== > --- > > The contents of the Blacksheep-L@rootsweb.com archives are copyrighted by each individual submitter. > TENDER LAMB CORNER: If your Blacksheep is still living, or public posting may cause trouble, send the information to our TLC Coordinator, Sue Bates; BSBates@netease.net, Confidentiality maintained. > > ============================== > To join Ancestry.com and access our 1.2 billion online genealogy records, go to: > http://www.ancestry.com/rd/redir.asp?targetid=571&sourceid=1237 --- Shuler Michael --- grinch42@mindspring.com --- EarthLink: The #1 provider of the Real Internet.