Jan C, are you asking me or jack? for my part things have not been to bad, Got the cheque this morning from the insurance, paid me over the value for my car so I am happy with that, will get a new car end of the week when the cheque clears through the bank, got my eye on something big and powerful, LOL. Kids dad has decided they are not his and told thm so with the addage "but it means nothing I love you like my own" if it means nothing why say it? I told the kids to ask their dad, on what basis does he make that statement? who does he suspect to be their father then the bloody tooth fairy, its not like he will pay more Allimoney, guess it fits his lies of "she had an affar so I had one" thats OK for his family as they are the same, but not OK for me as its not true, I am beginning to wish it was actually, get slammed for something I did not something I didn't do! think his timing stinks, to start giving the kids emotional grief, that comes to nothing and leaves them wondering what the hell is going on, especially for Nat, my middle child for those of you who don't know I can now report that on 20th April he had a Bi-lateral Mastectomy, we have to go back to the Hospital every few days for him to have a Blood clot drained off, but other that that he is fine and there are no complications or serious illnesses attached to the operation, its the absolute best thing that I have ever heard, so their dad does this, I never thought he would get this twisted! My friends all reckon its his way of getting at me because I called "time" on our relationship, and he still harbours , well harbours whatever, me i couldn't care less its done its past i have moved on, seems he has moved on to other relationships but has not actually "moved on"! I could willfully strangle him with my bear hands for this episode of hurting the kids, its the one thing I did not wnat to happen, but they are old enough to make the dicision to see him, and at teh moment he is still "god" whatever he says, Me I jsut let it go over my head, one day they will know the truth for themselves, when they have kkids of their own and someone lies to them, they will know how I feel right now, but I hope they never have to feel that pain either, guess thats the differnce between me and that thing I lived with who turned into Mr psycho when he could not get his own way! other than that Jan, things are fine right now! Mellie IBSSG How Come My Coat Of Arms has Ties At The Back? List Admin: AUS-NSW-SURNAMES-L@rootsweb.com BAGNALL-L@rootsweb.com BATE-L@rootsweb.com BENTON-ENG-L@rootsweb.com BLACKHAM-L@rootsweb.com FEREDAY-L@rootsweb.com HOLLOWOOD-L@rootsweb.com HOWDLE-L@rootsweb.com --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Attachments are not enclosed unless previously notified My AVG is updated every 24 hours Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.351 / Virus Database: 197 - Release Date: 19/04/02

"Mellie" <Mel@i12.com> wrote.... >.... Nat, my middle child for those of you who don't know I can > now report that on 20th April he had a Bi-lateral Mastectomy,< Oh, Mellie! I'm soooo sorry to hear this! I hope everything is resolved in the way of health concerns for him! And your ex, well, he's way low on the food chain!! *Parents* are supposed to try to protect their kids from hurt, not to inflict it. Guess no one ever told him that though! :-( Please extend my best wishes to Nat and hope that he continues to heal well and quickly! Best, SueB