I do my research working on the idea it is family history therefore whoever was part of the family was part of the history. Without DNA testing who are we to know who is a blood relative. Lots of strange things happened the farther back you go. And we have all heard of the story of a parent rearing a daughter's illegitimate child as their own. I think you just keep it honest if you have found the child name change put it in the notes. And remember they decided who their family was. Then continue on with your other members of the family in the direct line. I would keep to the child's descendants in that case (and later go back if you ever get time to his parentage). For the sake of sanity I just get *spouses* parents but if I had stopped at only males I would have missed out on a wealth of info. After all males and females share parents and grandparents and I want as many photos stories etc as I can get to make up the whole picture not just a list of names. And being female does that mean when I married I ceased to belong to that family or to its heritage as did my children? I think it is the choice of the researcher but I don't know about yours I have found my fellow researchers were mostly female (OK - not all fellows - I know some of you do too <grin>)who do not share my original name any more and they would not be in contact with me either. Perish the thought. I guess to stick to one name study you would have to stick to surname only in the final tree but don't envy the researcher trying to find info w/o the lateral thinking. Guess in the final outcome it is up to you. Sandra ----- Original Message ----- From: "Eliz Cook" <Elizcook@ains.net.au> To: <AUSTRALIA-CEMETERIES-L@rootsweb.com> Sent: Friday, April 11, 2003 9:55 PM Subject: [[AUS-CEM]] Re: [[AUS-CEM]] What to do? > Is it a bit like an adoption: there is a legal or accepted relationship AND > a blood one? > If I ever get the legal blood ones finished I plan to do the adoptive > bloodline. To my mind BOTH are important > but someone told me I was wrong and should only do the MALE bloodline > Elizabeth > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "Michelle Edwards" <shelledwards@optusnet.com.au> > To: <AUSTRALIA-CEMETERIES-L@rootsweb.com> > Sent: Friday, April 11, 2003 9:43 PM > Subject: [[AUS-CEM]] What to do? > > > > I have a situation > > > > I have got to my GG father, who was born a Fox, his father died and his > mother remarried a Holmes whilst my GG father was young, therefore my GG > father 'adopted' the name Holmes and married etc under this name, however > when doing family research - should you also research his 'real' name being > FOX to make it an accurate family tree? > > > > What do you do in this circumstance? > > > > > > ==== AUSTRALIA-CEMETERIES Mailing List ==== > > ================================================================== > > Cemetery Records on line:- > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~batman/ > > ================================================================== > > > > ============================== > > To join Ancestry.com and access our 1.2 billion online genealogy records, > go to: > > http://www.ancestry.com/rd/redir.asp?targetid=571&sourceid=1237 > > > > > ==== AUSTRALIA-CEMETERIES Mailing List ==== > ================================================================== > Anyone who wishes to make direct contact with Administrators > of this site may do so by Ray <batie@bigpond.net.au> > ================================================================== > > ============================== > To join Ancestry.com and access our 1.2 billion online genealogy records, go to: > http://www.ancestry.com/rd/redir.asp?targetid=571&sourceid=1237 >

I have a daughter, not my husband's, but adopted by him. Does that mean she is not part of 'our' family and does not share sibings. Nah. I also 'took in' my husband's little sister. Her mum died when she was under 2 years old. I was married to the oldest son so we were the obvious choice for the looker-afterers. Her dad could not cope at the time, and then died himself. I have listed her biological parents, as 'parents' and us as guardians. A can of worms, but still you might just as well write what is correct as what is incorrect. You never know if blood donations may be wanted or other health needs later on. There is no way I could donate anything, I have no blood ties with this child at all, and unless people know that, they may think I am being mean not to give. robyndehood.- ----- Original Message ----- From: "Brian & Sandra Magee" <sanbri@optusnet.com.au> To: <AUSTRALIA-CEMETERIES-L@rootsweb.com> Sent: Saturday, April 12, 2003 7:13 AM Subject: [[AUS-CEM]] Re: [[AUS-CEM]] Re: [[AUS-CEM]] What to do? > I do my research working on the idea it is family history therefore whoever > was part of the family was part of the history. Without DNA testing who are > we to know who is a blood relative. Lots of strange things happened the > farther back you go. And we have all heard of the story of a parent rearing > a daughter's illegitimate child as their own. I think you just keep it > honest if you have found the child name change put it in the notes. And > remember they decided who their family was. Then continue on with your > other members of the family in the direct line. I would keep to the child's > descendants in that case (and later go back if you ever get time to his > parentage). For the sake of sanity I just get *spouses* parents but if I > had stopped at only males I would have missed out on a wealth of info. > After all males and females share parents and grandparents and I want as > many photos stories etc as I can get to make up the whole picture not just a > list of names. And being female does that mean when I married I ceased to > belong to that family or to its heritage as did my children? I think it > is the choice of the researcher but I don't know about yours I have found my > fellow researchers were mostly female (OK - not all fellows - I know some > of you do too <grin>)who do not share my original name any more and they > would not be in contact with me either. Perish the thought. I guess to > stick to one name study you would have to stick to surname only in the final > tree but don't envy the researcher trying to find info w/o the lateral > thinking. > > Guess in the final outcome it is up to you. > > Sandra > > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "Eliz Cook" <Elizcook@ains.net.au> > To: <AUSTRALIA-CEMETERIES-L@rootsweb.com> > Sent: Friday, April 11, 2003 9:55 PM > Subject: [[AUS-CEM]] Re: [[AUS-CEM]] What to do? > > > > Is it a bit like an adoption: there is a legal or accepted relationship > AND > > a blood one? > > If I ever get the legal blood ones finished I plan to do the adoptive > > bloodline. To my mind BOTH are important > > but someone told me I was wrong and should only do the MALE bloodline > > Elizabeth > > ----- Original Message ----- > > From: "Michelle Edwards" <shelledwards@optusnet.com.au> > > To: <AUSTRALIA-CEMETERIES-L@rootsweb.com> > > Sent: Friday, April 11, 2003 9:43 PM > > Subject: [[AUS-CEM]] What to do? > > > > > > > I have a situation > > > > > > I have got to my GG father, who was born a Fox, his father died and his > > mother remarried a Holmes whilst my GG father was young, therefore my GG > > father 'adopted' the name Holmes and married etc under this name, however > > when doing family research - should you also research his 'real' name > being > > FOX to make it an accurate family tree? > > > > > > What do you do in this circumstance? > > > > > > > > > ==== AUSTRALIA-CEMETERIES Mailing List ==== > > > ================================================================== > > > Cemetery Records on line:- > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~batman/ > > > ================================================================== > > > > > > ============================== > > > To join Ancestry.com and access our 1.2 billion online genealogy > records, > > go to: > > > http://www.ancestry.com/rd/redir.asp?targetid=571&sourceid=1237 > > > > > > > > > ==== AUSTRALIA-CEMETERIES Mailing List ==== > > ================================================================== > > Anyone who wishes to make direct contact with Administrators > > of this site may do so by Ray <batie@bigpond.net.au> > > ================================================================== > > > > ============================== > > To join Ancestry.com and access our 1.2 billion online genealogy records, > go to: > > http://www.ancestry.com/rd/redir.asp?targetid=571&sourceid=1237 > > > > > ==== AUSTRALIA-CEMETERIES Mailing List ==== > ================================================================== > Anyone who wishes to make direct contact with Administrators > of this site may do so by Ray <batie@bigpond.net.au> > ================================================================== > > ============================== > To join Ancestry.com and access our 1.2 billion online genealogy records, go to: > http://www.ancestry.com/rd/redir.asp?targetid=571&sourceid=1237 >