Many thanks to everyone who has replied to my query - I had a feeling it was not going to be an easy search. The family does have its fair share of skeletons, but I hope enough time has gone by to allow us to find some answers without incurring any further damage or bad feeling. I really appreciate all your help and suggestions - mailing list people are wonderful! When (not IF!) we find some solutions I'll post a message to this list. Thank you all, Loretta & John