Judith, I found the messages most interesting and they helped me as well. I too, thought the site was to help people. Perhaps Brian thinks tis only to help him? I have been doing Genealogical research for over 25 years and was a Volunteer as the SAG for many years and thank GOD I didn't come across any people like him. Alwynne I emailed you off list too and my email was returned to me.. All the best to both of you from Marie