Hi List Memers and John, I agree it is nice to know the reason someone leaves a list... But I am not a List Mom, That to me says your children...LOL and I'm sure you are not. I manage the list by monitoring the messages, Check why email messages from the list are bouncing... try and fix it, assist people joining or unsubscribing... Not by doing it for them but by explaining how, By the way I sent a private message to the person who unsubed...Which is the job of the list manager.... give ideas about research and keep messages on tract... I stop all arguements and remove people from the list who are causing problems... That does not say mother is says manager.... So Please call me Nelda not list Mom... I do not expect you to tell us why you are leaving, although it would be nice, maybe there was a problem that could have been solved..?? If I knew about it...?? Maybe we would just like to say good bye and wish you luck... But as I said I do not expect you to. If you have a problem, Please present it to me The List Manager... off list as I will do for you unless it is something the whole list needs to know about it.... Thank you Nelda List Manager Nelda L. Percival nee Gilpin, IBSSG Beatty #005 & #10; Graves #231 & #105 http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~bonsteinandgilpin/ http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~gillock/ http://www.doodleartgraphics.com/

Dear Nelda, I just checked the list archives, and sorry, I noticed that I was the offender, calling you a list mom. Truly didn't know it would offend you, since from my point of view the expression 'Mom' entails the highest and warmest respect one can bestow towards another person. How times have changed! Please accept my apology, and let me assure you, it will not happen again. Sincerely yours, John Helmut Merz (btw I do know how to unsubscribe, and will do that now, no help needed) ----- Original Message ----- From: "Nelda Percival" <nelda_percival@hotmail.com> Sent: Friday, February 04, 2005 8:16 PM Subject: Re: [HESSIAN] Unsubscribe - (really a Good-Bye message) > Hi List Memers and John, > > I agree it is nice to know the reason someone leaves a list... But I am not > a List Mom, That to me says your children <SNIP> > Thank you > Nelda List Manager > > Nelda L. Percival nee Gilpin, IBSSG > (this is enough of a signature line, don't you think,)

Dear John, You did not offend me with calling me a list Mom. I just prefer not to be reffered to as such, as I explained. Once started on a list it is hard to get it stopped.That is why I had to write to the list instead of you personally. Now, Hurt feelings/differences of opinions should be discussed off list. I'd have preferred you wrote to me personally and we discussed this. What you wrote to me on the list can cause all the list members to dislike me and not want to be helpful as in helping other people... No, Please do not run back and say anything to anyone about it. That too could cause problems. You can't expect me to do the job if you are going to do it...It is one of the hardest things to let go of the list you created.. Yes I know you unsubbed yourself...That to me just pointed out even more that I hurt your feelings.. for this I am truly sorry, you are one of the people I truly respect!! If you ever feel lonely for the list and miss helping people like you do so well, please come back. The list will not be the same without you... John, I am sending a copy of this to the list so that they can see I appologised to you... Regards Nelda Nelda L. Percival nee Gilpin, IBSSG Beatty #005 & #10; Graves #231 & #105 http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~bonsteinandgilpin/ http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~gillock/ http://www.doodleartgraphics.com/